Well, not much to report. No change.
I am fairly certain that I have an enterovesical fistula - which means there is a passageway between my bowel and my bladder. This could explain all the weird urinary symptoms, with the absence of actual UTI. I think it's a little bit odd that they did not find air during CT (which is the telltale sign of EVF) - but all my other symptoms seem to fit.
I'm doing an at-home experiment as a result, called the poppyseed test. It's exactly what you think. I eat a shit ton of poppyseeds (luckily I have a total addiction to almond poppyseed muffins) and watch to see if I pass any poppyseeds from my urethra over the next couple of days.
I am fortunate that actually passing small things from my urethra no longer causes me unbelievable pain - it's now only slightly uncomfortable for the most part. I do occasionally have more pain, but it's few and far between. Wish I could say that things were healing, but my urine keeps changing and getting darker. I'm peeing blood again. So today it's not really getting better, but how I feel is getting more tolerable.
Wish I could report that my MS was totally chill right now - I'm hating the fact that my leg spasticity seems to be on the rise. Every morning when I stretch my right leg, it cramps up. It's likely just a side effect of everything from the steroids (which keep me awake, give me heartburn, make my voice scratchy, yadda yadda). Prednisone is seriously no fun. Can't wait to be finally tapered off - only about seven more days!!
My life feels like I am at another set of crossroads. It hasn't even been a year since I totally bailed from my first real job. I loved that job, but there were so many things wrong with that location. I just could not stay there any more, waiting for the ship to sink. I felt guilty and terrible. But it wasn't right.
Well, I feel like this just isn't right. It can't be right. I don't belong here!
There's gotta be something better than this
There's gotta be something better to do
And when I find me something better to do..
I'm gonna get up, I'm gonna get out, I'm gonna get up, get out, and do it!!
Love, MSloan
Showing posts with label MS symptoms. Show all posts
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Tuesday, January 30, 2018
Tuesday, January 23, 2018
An Unhealthy Coping Strategy
Hi, my name is MSloan, and I am a shopaholic.
I started my addiction to shopping in 2009 shortly after I got married and fell into a deep depression. I felt completely alone in my life, despite marrying a wonderful man, and I felt like I had no real direction. I was applying to graduate school in the only thing I had ever really studied, and I really had issues with feeling satisfied with myself - how I looked, how I felt, how I dressed, and how I coped.
I started to get "sick" around this time - the infamous part of my life that I describe as such. I know now that it was the beginning of my MS. But then - I was just getting sick. Sick in an indescribable way. Sick in a way that made me dizzy and nauseated, in a way that made me hate who I was.
So what did I do? I went shopping.
I shopped and I shopped. I went to the JcPenney no less than three times per week. I was constantly crawling the mall, looking for sizes that fit. I bought lots of clothes of the same style in different colors. Some of these clothes I still have - but when you buy a lot of clothes at once, it's highly unlikely that you're purchasing quality stuff. The clothing I bought was much more professional than my every day life called for - I ended up standing out looking too old for my age, or above my "station." But I didn't care - I craved respect, because I couldn't give it to myself. I also had concerns about whether or not my clothes were modest enough - a change that I was making at this same time, adding more stress to the situation.
I didn't go into tremendous debt for my shopping, but I knew I had a problem. If I wasn't at home or at work, I was shopping. I walked into the Dress Barn on the corner of the Target lot probably as often as I went to the Target (which was often). I knew every inch of the store. I was at these stores so much, there was no point in shopping - I knew all the inventory. I shopped online. I learned that inventory. I memorized where clothes were on each page, which color I could buy it in, what size. I learned the names of styles and fabrics. I bought shoes. I bought jewelry. I kept shopping.
Since that time, I have learned that I can still slip into shopping addiction really quickly, especially when I am feeling low. This year, I have found myself falling back into that cycle. I thought I was feeling well enough about my circumstance, but clearly that's not true. I have bought literally thousands of dollars of clothes. While I am still not going into debt for my addiction, it is taking a toll on my savings, and what I had hoped to save up for. I bought $200 of clothing yesterday. I shouldn't be spending money at all - I have to pay for a colonoscopy, likely before the month is out.
What is wrong with me??
MSloan
I started my addiction to shopping in 2009 shortly after I got married and fell into a deep depression. I felt completely alone in my life, despite marrying a wonderful man, and I felt like I had no real direction. I was applying to graduate school in the only thing I had ever really studied, and I really had issues with feeling satisfied with myself - how I looked, how I felt, how I dressed, and how I coped.
I started to get "sick" around this time - the infamous part of my life that I describe as such. I know now that it was the beginning of my MS. But then - I was just getting sick. Sick in an indescribable way. Sick in a way that made me dizzy and nauseated, in a way that made me hate who I was.
So what did I do? I went shopping.
I shopped and I shopped. I went to the JcPenney no less than three times per week. I was constantly crawling the mall, looking for sizes that fit. I bought lots of clothes of the same style in different colors. Some of these clothes I still have - but when you buy a lot of clothes at once, it's highly unlikely that you're purchasing quality stuff. The clothing I bought was much more professional than my every day life called for - I ended up standing out looking too old for my age, or above my "station." But I didn't care - I craved respect, because I couldn't give it to myself. I also had concerns about whether or not my clothes were modest enough - a change that I was making at this same time, adding more stress to the situation.
I didn't go into tremendous debt for my shopping, but I knew I had a problem. If I wasn't at home or at work, I was shopping. I walked into the Dress Barn on the corner of the Target lot probably as often as I went to the Target (which was often). I knew every inch of the store. I was at these stores so much, there was no point in shopping - I knew all the inventory. I shopped online. I learned that inventory. I memorized where clothes were on each page, which color I could buy it in, what size. I learned the names of styles and fabrics. I bought shoes. I bought jewelry. I kept shopping.
Since that time, I have learned that I can still slip into shopping addiction really quickly, especially when I am feeling low. This year, I have found myself falling back into that cycle. I thought I was feeling well enough about my circumstance, but clearly that's not true. I have bought literally thousands of dollars of clothes. While I am still not going into debt for my addiction, it is taking a toll on my savings, and what I had hoped to save up for. I bought $200 of clothing yesterday. I shouldn't be spending money at all - I have to pay for a colonoscopy, likely before the month is out.
What is wrong with me??
MSloan
Thursday, July 6, 2017
A Mystery Solved
Well, the flare continues. Bummer!
I had hoped that my run with spasticity and a random MS hug would have been the end of it, but it does appear that my whole body is going through some difficult times right now. From head to toe, I feel like a rubber band that has been stretched too tight - every muscle hurts and it truly has the sensation reminiscent of being "just about ready to cramp." Especially in my calves; I worry when I go to sleep that I will be woken suddenly by strong cramps, so I have been sleeping with my toes pointed straight up so that I don't angle my foot too much outward.
I did a lot of reading today, as I had to stay home from work. I became very sick yesterday evening. I have experienced a lot of abdominal cramping over the past couple of weeks, and it came to a pinnacle yesterday - I was in too much pain to eat more than a few bites of dinner, and I couldn't sleep. I woke in the middle of the night and threw up - something I very rarely do. It's been about 3 years since the last time, and even then it was very similar to this. And four years before that, again a similar situation. I hadn't in 15 years before then.
Things really got me thinking - as nothing I was doing seemed to help (not a single drug I took last night made me feel better), was this possibly related to my MS?
Over the past seven years, I have had a myriad of intestinal issues. Looking back, I always describe my "knowing something was wrong" when I started to suffer from daily, almost constant nausea. As someone who very rarely throws up, being nauseated was like torture. No matter how many times I would mention this to doctors, no one seemed to care. Maybe it was my BC, maybe it was the blind UTI, maybe it was stress...pish posh, something was wrong. Two years later when I developed sudden heartburn that was so severe I couldn't swallow, I was told it was because I didn't eat breakfast.
Oy, to say the least.
Today while researching, I found some information on gastroparesis - and bingo. It matches my symptoms perfectly and explains soooo many of my long lasting issues. So while right now I am still very hungry from having too little today, and my stomach still hurts, I feel closer to an answer. Isn't it strange ho having a reason makes it all so much easier to handle?
Love All,
MSloan
I had hoped that my run with spasticity and a random MS hug would have been the end of it, but it does appear that my whole body is going through some difficult times right now. From head to toe, I feel like a rubber band that has been stretched too tight - every muscle hurts and it truly has the sensation reminiscent of being "just about ready to cramp." Especially in my calves; I worry when I go to sleep that I will be woken suddenly by strong cramps, so I have been sleeping with my toes pointed straight up so that I don't angle my foot too much outward.
I did a lot of reading today, as I had to stay home from work. I became very sick yesterday evening. I have experienced a lot of abdominal cramping over the past couple of weeks, and it came to a pinnacle yesterday - I was in too much pain to eat more than a few bites of dinner, and I couldn't sleep. I woke in the middle of the night and threw up - something I very rarely do. It's been about 3 years since the last time, and even then it was very similar to this. And four years before that, again a similar situation. I hadn't in 15 years before then.
Things really got me thinking - as nothing I was doing seemed to help (not a single drug I took last night made me feel better), was this possibly related to my MS?
Over the past seven years, I have had a myriad of intestinal issues. Looking back, I always describe my "knowing something was wrong" when I started to suffer from daily, almost constant nausea. As someone who very rarely throws up, being nauseated was like torture. No matter how many times I would mention this to doctors, no one seemed to care. Maybe it was my BC, maybe it was the blind UTI, maybe it was stress...pish posh, something was wrong. Two years later when I developed sudden heartburn that was so severe I couldn't swallow, I was told it was because I didn't eat breakfast.
Oy, to say the least.
Today while researching, I found some information on gastroparesis - and bingo. It matches my symptoms perfectly and explains soooo many of my long lasting issues. So while right now I am still very hungry from having too little today, and my stomach still hurts, I feel closer to an answer. Isn't it strange ho having a reason makes it all so much easier to handle?
Love All,
MSloan
Friday, June 30, 2017
When Spasticity Strikes Back
Well, it has been a thankful long time since I have felt a need to update my MS blog. Things have been generally well. I quit the job at the sinking ship. I have a new job which will allow me to run my own office very soon - 2 weeks from now, in fact. I won't need to commute from home to work any longer. My daughter is beautiful, smart, and a joy. My husband, despite being left to watch her for several hours as I commute and while I attempt to have a life as a working mother, has no plans to leave me :).
Well, as the weather has proven in the past three weeks in Northern California, it has been bloody hot.
It began about three weeks ago with a particularly hot day. I noticed when I put my baby in the bathtub that as I bent over, I felt the ever-familiar Lhermitte's sign tingling in my feet. It has been about a year since I felt it, briefly, after a long walk. I felt it again and again, every time I moved my head, for about three or four days.
Then, the numbness returned in my legs. Only in pieces, though. Not enough to really raise any red flags.
I had an MS hug earlier this week - started on my left side, tightening beneath my ribcage, then slowly spreading around the front to my right side. By the time I went to bed, I wasn't able to take a full, deep breath without pain. But by morning, it was gone. I figured all of this was due to the heat.
Well, tonight while we were in the grocery store, my husband and I were teasing each other. I specifically remember him poking at my bottom when I suddenly felt a sharp tug in my left foot. It was a cramp. I figured, no big deal, it's just a cramp. But it didn't go away - I had to stop, take off my shoe, and try to massage my foot (in the middle of the store, no less) while I watched my second toe contort as if it was out of place. The muscle contraction was so strong it was moving my toes from the ball of my foot forward! Oh, man, it HURT! I know I seemed like a baby to him, but after five full minutes and no let up, it felt really scary. I couldn't walk on it. I hobbled around one aisle looking for a single item when I gave up and told him I was going to the car.
As I limped out of the store, my left foot started to feel better. However, I was cautious. I called my sister as I had to talk to someone other than my husband, who I am certain thinks I am blowing this out of proportion (I'm not). And guess what? Just as I was looking for my car, dammit if I didn't get a bloody cramp in my other foot! Akkk!!!! I felt like I was being attacked by my own feet. I got in the car and just sat still, massaging my feet and hoping the cramping would stop.
Since we got home, I have been trying to keep off my feet, literally. I am worried that maybe it was my shoes, maybe it was just how I was walking. I feel literally scared of walking right now. I'm afraid if I put weight on my feet, they will spasm. So I am holding still. My anxiety over it is making me walk funny, which I fear will mean I will sprain something. Every time I walk up my stairs, I get a sensation of early cramping in my foot. I am now hating my husband for wanting a house with stairs when I told him a ranch style might be better for my future.
And, I understand better why it may be a good idea to get a handicap placard if it ever happens again. Walking across the parking lot (hobbling, more like) was embarrassing and I just wanted to get to my car.
MS fucking blows. And I was doing so well! Fingers crossed that this was a one-off.
Love, MSloan
Well, as the weather has proven in the past three weeks in Northern California, it has been bloody hot.
It began about three weeks ago with a particularly hot day. I noticed when I put my baby in the bathtub that as I bent over, I felt the ever-familiar Lhermitte's sign tingling in my feet. It has been about a year since I felt it, briefly, after a long walk. I felt it again and again, every time I moved my head, for about three or four days.
Then, the numbness returned in my legs. Only in pieces, though. Not enough to really raise any red flags.
I had an MS hug earlier this week - started on my left side, tightening beneath my ribcage, then slowly spreading around the front to my right side. By the time I went to bed, I wasn't able to take a full, deep breath without pain. But by morning, it was gone. I figured all of this was due to the heat.
Well, tonight while we were in the grocery store, my husband and I were teasing each other. I specifically remember him poking at my bottom when I suddenly felt a sharp tug in my left foot. It was a cramp. I figured, no big deal, it's just a cramp. But it didn't go away - I had to stop, take off my shoe, and try to massage my foot (in the middle of the store, no less) while I watched my second toe contort as if it was out of place. The muscle contraction was so strong it was moving my toes from the ball of my foot forward! Oh, man, it HURT! I know I seemed like a baby to him, but after five full minutes and no let up, it felt really scary. I couldn't walk on it. I hobbled around one aisle looking for a single item when I gave up and told him I was going to the car.
As I limped out of the store, my left foot started to feel better. However, I was cautious. I called my sister as I had to talk to someone other than my husband, who I am certain thinks I am blowing this out of proportion (I'm not). And guess what? Just as I was looking for my car, dammit if I didn't get a bloody cramp in my other foot! Akkk!!!! I felt like I was being attacked by my own feet. I got in the car and just sat still, massaging my feet and hoping the cramping would stop.
Since we got home, I have been trying to keep off my feet, literally. I am worried that maybe it was my shoes, maybe it was just how I was walking. I feel literally scared of walking right now. I'm afraid if I put weight on my feet, they will spasm. So I am holding still. My anxiety over it is making me walk funny, which I fear will mean I will sprain something. Every time I walk up my stairs, I get a sensation of early cramping in my foot. I am now hating my husband for wanting a house with stairs when I told him a ranch style might be better for my future.
And, I understand better why it may be a good idea to get a handicap placard if it ever happens again. Walking across the parking lot (hobbling, more like) was embarrassing and I just wanted to get to my car.
MS fucking blows. And I was doing so well! Fingers crossed that this was a one-off.
Love, MSloan
Friday, January 20, 2017
Welcome To A New Year
Hey all!
I am sorry for my continued absence; turns out, raising a baby when you have MS is very difficult! I find myself getting really exhausted really quickly, I can't stay up past 10 PM most nights, and whenever I get a free moment, I want to play with my daughter, so that leaves little time for blogging. Or reading. Or eating. Or cleaning. I pretty much have no time for anything!
My MS has remained very stable since she was born, though. My right eye is still mostly useless (went dark in December 2015). I am grateful for every day that I don't have a bad symptom. A few months back, I had an honest-to-goodness MS Hug that almost floored me. I really thought I was having a heart attack. The "Hug" (still want to clock whoever came up with that name) began in the middle of my back and spread to my sides. It was painful, as if my muscles were being squeezed, which made it hard to breathe. Lying down made it worse. I called the ER to make sure, you know, I wasn't actually having a heart attack, and they told me that they couldn't really help me.
Which was then topped off by having to explain to several nurses that, yes, MS can cause pain, that it could be the cause of my current predicament, and no, not all people with MS just slowly lose control of their bodies until they can't walk. How nice.
My advice for the new year is thus: focus on the positive. I think my MS is better because I am reducing stress around me as much as possible. Remember that MS is triggered by stress - positive AND negative alike - so don't forget to breathe during the day. You'll get through it!
Love all,
MSloan
I am sorry for my continued absence; turns out, raising a baby when you have MS is very difficult! I find myself getting really exhausted really quickly, I can't stay up past 10 PM most nights, and whenever I get a free moment, I want to play with my daughter, so that leaves little time for blogging. Or reading. Or eating. Or cleaning. I pretty much have no time for anything!
My MS has remained very stable since she was born, though. My right eye is still mostly useless (went dark in December 2015). I am grateful for every day that I don't have a bad symptom. A few months back, I had an honest-to-goodness MS Hug that almost floored me. I really thought I was having a heart attack. The "Hug" (still want to clock whoever came up with that name) began in the middle of my back and spread to my sides. It was painful, as if my muscles were being squeezed, which made it hard to breathe. Lying down made it worse. I called the ER to make sure, you know, I wasn't actually having a heart attack, and they told me that they couldn't really help me.
Which was then topped off by having to explain to several nurses that, yes, MS can cause pain, that it could be the cause of my current predicament, and no, not all people with MS just slowly lose control of their bodies until they can't walk. How nice.
My advice for the new year is thus: focus on the positive. I think my MS is better because I am reducing stress around me as much as possible. Remember that MS is triggered by stress - positive AND negative alike - so don't forget to breathe during the day. You'll get through it!
Love all,
MSloan
Monday, March 21, 2016
ChatMS 3/21/2016
Hey all!
I have less than a month until this baby's due - whew!! I finally heard from my neurologist, and we're going to do another baseline MRI when she is born, with contrast. I'm going to keep my fingers crossed that I don't have active lesions, and I can be put back on a DMD rather quickly. I had hoped that I would breastfeed for much longer than I'll be able to, but hey - not all children are breastfed, she won't die poor and lonely because of it, and there are millions of formula babies that do just fine.
We'll be okay.
This is tonight's ChatMS - it is all about "D-Day," or the day we were diagnosed! My blog has chronicled this well, but I'm happy to answer these questions. I didn't get a chance to participate live, but feel free to copy/paste the questions on your own blog to keep the conversation going!
Q1 – When did you get the Multiple Sclerosis diagnosis? At what age?
February 28, 2014. I was 24 years old, but had been symptomatic since late 2009, early 2010. Two days earlier (that Wednesday) I woke up with numbness down my entire left leg, and my right foot. It took me three days to get to the hospital; I had tried calling a few neurologists, but none of them called me back.
Q2 – Were you aware of what MS was at that time?
I knew more than most. I see MS frequently at my job, and just before this happened, I saw an influx of MS patients. I was diagnosed during what I later learned was called "MS Season" in the neurology office I went to. It frequently flared at that time of year, which is odd. The first time I began learning about MS was in early 2010, when I first started experiencing symptoms - I was told explicitly during that class, "Don't go home and think you have this, because you'll think you have this!" And so I ignored what I was going through until I couldn't anymore.
A couple months before my D-Day, we got a new front office person at my work. She was hired, and then told us that she had MS, and had to miss a few hours at the end of every month to get her infusion (I later learned she was on Tysabri). My heart skipped a beat when she told us she had MS - I felt like it was yet another sign. She was the first person to "figure out" what was going on with me, and was the first one I confided in that I thought I had MS, besides my husband.
Q3 – Where were you when you got diagnosed? Was anyone with you?
It was a trip to the ER that did it. On the off-chance that it wasn't MS, I didn't know how serious the issue could be - thrombosis, tumor, nerve pinch. I called the two most important people in my life: my husband and my sister. I later got a lot of flack from my mother for not inviting her - yet more support for why I didn't do so! They sat with me for the entire almost 8 hours of waiting through tests, MRIs, no food, stress... I will forever be grateful.
Q4 – What were your initial thoughts after hearing “You have Multiple Sclerosis”?
"Great, I knew that, what do we do about it?"
Q5 – What were the reactions of your family members and/or friends?
A lot of silence. The few friends I told that day (because I asked about neurologists and what they thought I should do when no one called me back) were somewhat surprised, but then clammed up. A couple well-meaning friends started offering advice about my diet, exercise routine, medications. My husband was so thankful it wasn't a brain tumor that I don't think it sunk in. My sister, who was so helpful to be there but doesn't handle things like this very well, simply said nothing. I know she was very uncomfortable about it and didn't really know what to do or say. It wasn't long before she started in with the diet thing, too. I'm glad that phase is pretty much over!
Q6 – What did you do to learn more about MS after you were diagnosed?
You know, as I had seen so many people with MS, the physical disability part was something I was somewhat spared from. Which is odd. I didn't really understand the reality of what COULD happen until a fellow student said, "I don't know a whole lot about MS, but I know that people with MS eventually can't walk." That terrified me, I had never heard that - I refuse to believe that, because it simply isn't reality. Yes, it's a possibility. But it's also possible that I will be hit by a car tomorrow. Time will tell, I guess.
I also had to learn a lot about the realities of feeling bad because of the treatment instead of the disease. I absolutely would choose numbness and tingling over a "Solly Headache" any day, especially with how the steroids affect my tastebuds and sleep patterns.
Q7 - If you could go back and tell yourself one thing on your D-day what would that be?
"Reduce your stress, keep this to yourself, and know that things can always get worse. This isn't the end of the world, just the beginning of a new understanding of yourself. You are validated, don't tell others and make a big deal of it - because they won't comfort you. Comfort yourself."
Q8 – What tips or advice do you have for those newly diagnosed or going through the testing process?
See above. This truly is the best advice I can give. You may be more disappointed with the lack of reaction from your friends and loved ones than you ever would from comforting words or actions - they don't understand what you're going through, and they may not be able to support you in the way you think you need. So find support with other MSers, not your friends; and do NOT tell prospective employers. A week after my Dx, I lost a job interview because I was honest about why I couldn't fly out right away (I had been advised not to fly that first week). So sad.
Love all! MSloan
I have less than a month until this baby's due - whew!! I finally heard from my neurologist, and we're going to do another baseline MRI when she is born, with contrast. I'm going to keep my fingers crossed that I don't have active lesions, and I can be put back on a DMD rather quickly. I had hoped that I would breastfeed for much longer than I'll be able to, but hey - not all children are breastfed, she won't die poor and lonely because of it, and there are millions of formula babies that do just fine.
We'll be okay.
This is tonight's ChatMS - it is all about "D-Day," or the day we were diagnosed! My blog has chronicled this well, but I'm happy to answer these questions. I didn't get a chance to participate live, but feel free to copy/paste the questions on your own blog to keep the conversation going!
Q1 – When did you get the Multiple Sclerosis diagnosis? At what age?
February 28, 2014. I was 24 years old, but had been symptomatic since late 2009, early 2010. Two days earlier (that Wednesday) I woke up with numbness down my entire left leg, and my right foot. It took me three days to get to the hospital; I had tried calling a few neurologists, but none of them called me back.
Q2 – Were you aware of what MS was at that time?
I knew more than most. I see MS frequently at my job, and just before this happened, I saw an influx of MS patients. I was diagnosed during what I later learned was called "MS Season" in the neurology office I went to. It frequently flared at that time of year, which is odd. The first time I began learning about MS was in early 2010, when I first started experiencing symptoms - I was told explicitly during that class, "Don't go home and think you have this, because you'll think you have this!" And so I ignored what I was going through until I couldn't anymore.
A couple months before my D-Day, we got a new front office person at my work. She was hired, and then told us that she had MS, and had to miss a few hours at the end of every month to get her infusion (I later learned she was on Tysabri). My heart skipped a beat when she told us she had MS - I felt like it was yet another sign. She was the first person to "figure out" what was going on with me, and was the first one I confided in that I thought I had MS, besides my husband.
Q3 – Where were you when you got diagnosed? Was anyone with you?
It was a trip to the ER that did it. On the off-chance that it wasn't MS, I didn't know how serious the issue could be - thrombosis, tumor, nerve pinch. I called the two most important people in my life: my husband and my sister. I later got a lot of flack from my mother for not inviting her - yet more support for why I didn't do so! They sat with me for the entire almost 8 hours of waiting through tests, MRIs, no food, stress... I will forever be grateful.
Q4 – What were your initial thoughts after hearing “You have Multiple Sclerosis”?
"Great, I knew that, what do we do about it?"
Q5 – What were the reactions of your family members and/or friends?
A lot of silence. The few friends I told that day (because I asked about neurologists and what they thought I should do when no one called me back) were somewhat surprised, but then clammed up. A couple well-meaning friends started offering advice about my diet, exercise routine, medications. My husband was so thankful it wasn't a brain tumor that I don't think it sunk in. My sister, who was so helpful to be there but doesn't handle things like this very well, simply said nothing. I know she was very uncomfortable about it and didn't really know what to do or say. It wasn't long before she started in with the diet thing, too. I'm glad that phase is pretty much over!
Q6 – What did you do to learn more about MS after you were diagnosed?
You know, as I had seen so many people with MS, the physical disability part was something I was somewhat spared from. Which is odd. I didn't really understand the reality of what COULD happen until a fellow student said, "I don't know a whole lot about MS, but I know that people with MS eventually can't walk." That terrified me, I had never heard that - I refuse to believe that, because it simply isn't reality. Yes, it's a possibility. But it's also possible that I will be hit by a car tomorrow. Time will tell, I guess.
I also had to learn a lot about the realities of feeling bad because of the treatment instead of the disease. I absolutely would choose numbness and tingling over a "Solly Headache" any day, especially with how the steroids affect my tastebuds and sleep patterns.
Q7 - If you could go back and tell yourself one thing on your D-day what would that be?
"Reduce your stress, keep this to yourself, and know that things can always get worse. This isn't the end of the world, just the beginning of a new understanding of yourself. You are validated, don't tell others and make a big deal of it - because they won't comfort you. Comfort yourself."
Q8 – What tips or advice do you have for those newly diagnosed or going through the testing process?
See above. This truly is the best advice I can give. You may be more disappointed with the lack of reaction from your friends and loved ones than you ever would from comforting words or actions - they don't understand what you're going through, and they may not be able to support you in the way you think you need. So find support with other MSers, not your friends; and do NOT tell prospective employers. A week after my Dx, I lost a job interview because I was honest about why I couldn't fly out right away (I had been advised not to fly that first week). So sad.
Love all! MSloan
Monday, February 29, 2016
Coming Out of the MS Closet
Tonight, I finally did it. I finally just bit the bullet and stopped beating around the bush. I let it be known that I had Multiple Sclerosis to my friends on Facebook - which is scarier than it seems.
This is what I said, and I hope that I can encourage my friends to keep spreading the word and the awareness of MS. No offense, cancer peeps, but breast cancer doesn't need awareness, it needs a cure - MS truly needs awareness, or we'll NEVER find a cure!
Love all, MSloan
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In late 2009, I started to notice something. I started to feel sick, all the time. I started to struggle to see the tv screen, and I had nearly constant headaches. In January 2010, I started to have daily nausea, a symptom that debilitated me and made me constantly paranoid that I would get sick in class. I got glasses and changed my birth control. I changed my diet and carried pepto bismol tablets with me everywhere I went. Nothing changed the nausea. It got so bad, I saw a movie with my friend and I made her sit in the theatre with me for about fifteen minutes before I felt well enough to stand up to leave. I once had to call Steve to come rescue me from the Safeway five blocks from our apartment because I literally could not stand up any longer, and I abandoned my cart in the pharmacy and hustled to my car.
It was a scary six months. But at the end of the semester, I felt better. I had cycles like this one intermittently for the next few years, rearing their ugly head again most noticeably in November of 2013. I had avoided the problem, and avoided telling anyone I knew what I was feeling, for fear that i would be told it was "all in my head," or that I was "just stressed."
Two years ago, on February 26th of 2014, I woke up and could not feel the left side of my body, nor could I feel my right foot. I tried to ignore it. Later that night, I called an old friend and texted my sister, and was told it was probably nothing, which was the response I got from the few people I told that day. But I knew what was wrong. I had known since that time that I call, "when I got sick," those early months of 2010 when I couldn't ignore my symptoms any more, and went from doctor to doctor, learning nothing, until my symptoms went away on their own.
I knew then, and it was finally confirmed in an Emergency Room visit on February 28th, 2014. I had Multiple Sclerosis.
Since that time, I have had symptoms that have come and gone, some that have stayed, and some that only arise when I get stressed. I have lost vision, I have lost words, I have had dizziness and now have constant tinnitus. I have had days when I could not get out of bed. I have had weeks where whenever I leaned over, I had an electric shock go down my spine, every single time. I was told my illness would subside while I was pregnant - it has not. You can't see my illness, but it is very, very real to me.
People always share "Save the Ta-Tas," and say that Cancer awareness is an important cause. While I absolutely support awareness of various cancers and illnesses, from autism to seizures to ataxia, Multiple Sclerosis is a largely ignored disease because of its invisible nature. You can't always tell when someone has MS. Did you know that many of the people that you scoff at for parking in the Handicap spaces struggle with MS, and it takes their every breath to walk just to the door? That they might not be able to feel their feet, or their legs, or their hips? That they might have a suffocating squeeze around their abdomen, a symptom inappropriately called the "MS Hug," which could bring them to their knees at any minute?
March is Multiple Sclerosis Awareness and Education Month. I ask that you do one thing - if you have a question about my MS, ask me. Don't make assumptions, and don't google it. Just ask me. Because the more people who are touched personally by this disease, the better the world will be - because awareness brings research, it brings discussion, it WILL bring a cure.
Wear ORANGE!
This is what I said, and I hope that I can encourage my friends to keep spreading the word and the awareness of MS. No offense, cancer peeps, but breast cancer doesn't need awareness, it needs a cure - MS truly needs awareness, or we'll NEVER find a cure!
Love all, MSloan
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In late 2009, I started to notice something. I started to feel sick, all the time. I started to struggle to see the tv screen, and I had nearly constant headaches. In January 2010, I started to have daily nausea, a symptom that debilitated me and made me constantly paranoid that I would get sick in class. I got glasses and changed my birth control. I changed my diet and carried pepto bismol tablets with me everywhere I went. Nothing changed the nausea. It got so bad, I saw a movie with my friend and I made her sit in the theatre with me for about fifteen minutes before I felt well enough to stand up to leave. I once had to call Steve to come rescue me from the Safeway five blocks from our apartment because I literally could not stand up any longer, and I abandoned my cart in the pharmacy and hustled to my car.
It was a scary six months. But at the end of the semester, I felt better. I had cycles like this one intermittently for the next few years, rearing their ugly head again most noticeably in November of 2013. I had avoided the problem, and avoided telling anyone I knew what I was feeling, for fear that i would be told it was "all in my head," or that I was "just stressed."
Two years ago, on February 26th of 2014, I woke up and could not feel the left side of my body, nor could I feel my right foot. I tried to ignore it. Later that night, I called an old friend and texted my sister, and was told it was probably nothing, which was the response I got from the few people I told that day. But I knew what was wrong. I had known since that time that I call, "when I got sick," those early months of 2010 when I couldn't ignore my symptoms any more, and went from doctor to doctor, learning nothing, until my symptoms went away on their own.
I knew then, and it was finally confirmed in an Emergency Room visit on February 28th, 2014. I had Multiple Sclerosis.
Since that time, I have had symptoms that have come and gone, some that have stayed, and some that only arise when I get stressed. I have lost vision, I have lost words, I have had dizziness and now have constant tinnitus. I have had days when I could not get out of bed. I have had weeks where whenever I leaned over, I had an electric shock go down my spine, every single time. I was told my illness would subside while I was pregnant - it has not. You can't see my illness, but it is very, very real to me.
People always share "Save the Ta-Tas," and say that Cancer awareness is an important cause. While I absolutely support awareness of various cancers and illnesses, from autism to seizures to ataxia, Multiple Sclerosis is a largely ignored disease because of its invisible nature. You can't always tell when someone has MS. Did you know that many of the people that you scoff at for parking in the Handicap spaces struggle with MS, and it takes their every breath to walk just to the door? That they might not be able to feel their feet, or their legs, or their hips? That they might have a suffocating squeeze around their abdomen, a symptom inappropriately called the "MS Hug," which could bring them to their knees at any minute?
March is Multiple Sclerosis Awareness and Education Month. I ask that you do one thing - if you have a question about my MS, ask me. Don't make assumptions, and don't google it. Just ask me. Because the more people who are touched personally by this disease, the better the world will be - because awareness brings research, it brings discussion, it WILL bring a cure.
Wear ORANGE!
Monday, January 18, 2016
ChatMS 1/18/2016
Hello all!
I didn't do a posting for ChatMS last week because all the questions were about how cold weather affects your MS - and I live in California. I don't have any issues with that, so I couldn't relate to any of the questions.
If you are affected by cold weather, please tell me your story! In my case, I only notice issues when it gets above 95.
This week's ChatMS is another one on symptomology. Please feel free to cut/paste the questions to put on your own blog. Keep the conversation going!
Q1: Over 50% of MSers say they experience sleep problems. Are you part of this statistic?
Abso-freaking-lutely. I can't even count on both hands the number of great nights of sleep I have had in the last few years. Being pregnant compounds this, for sure!
Q2: Sleep issues can involve insomnia, apnea, narcolepsy or restless leg syndrome. Do you experience any of these?
Insomnia is the big one. Mostly, when I wake during the night, I can't fall back asleep. I also have restless leg syndrome, and often feel generally 'uncomfortable' for lack of a better word.
Q3: What symptoms do you experience that disrupt your sleeping habits?
See above - but I also have frequent urination, heartburn, nausea, dizziness. Leg cramps!!!! Not all the time, and thank goodness not all at once. But these issues rear their ugly head on occasion and good luck sleeping through that.
Q4: Not sleeping well can have a negative effect on your well being. Does your sleep affect your daily activities?
Absolutely. I can feel when I haven't gotten a good night's sleep - I am more irritable, less tolerant of annoyances and demanding people, and my depression spikes. I do not believe it contributes to my MS fatigue, which is a beast in and of itself.
Q5: Fatigue tends to a common symptom of MS. Do you believe this is this due to your disrupted sleep?
Oh, the fatigue. The fatigue, fatigue, fatigue. Other than pregnancy I cannot imagine anyone really experiencing fatigue the way that MS gives you fatigue.
I have had depression and anxiety for many years - since I was a pre-teen. Depression makes you tired, hopeless, keeps you in bed because you don't want to get out of bed. It's an entirely different feeling from having a cold, having the flu, being 'sick' and not having the strength to get up. MS fatigue is an incredible, overwhelming sensation - not of "I don't want to get up," or even "I don't feel well enough to get up." It is a can NOT. I can NOT get out of bed. I can NOT get off the couch. I am stuck right where I am.
I had a relatively full night's sleep early on in my MS diagnosis days, not when it first began but when I was actually diagnosed. The next day I could not get out of bed. I nearly wet the bed because of this fatigue. I was sitting on my couch and felt what can only be described as a heaviness. I couldn't get up to eat. I couldn't pick up my computer or my phone. I just sat there, at the mercy of my cats. Exhausted, but not tired - I didn't sleep all day. And then I finally understood why 'fatigue,' as one of the most common symptoms of MS, is grossly misunderstood.
Q6: Have you talked to your neuro about your sleeping habits?
Nah - I didn't think she could do anything about it at the beginning, and I had been dealing with so many issues with my sleep habits that adding MS to the causes wasn't going to make too much of a difference.
Q7: Are you on any meds to help you have a good nights rest? Which ones?
Nope.
Q8: If you have extreme insomnia what do you do to help you fall asleep?
Flip my pillow over. Get up and go to the bathroom, roll my husband over so he'll stop snoring. Read something very boring. Climax. Deep breathing, in through the nose and out through the mouth. Clench all my muscles in systematic patterns and release. I have yet to find the perfect cure to insomnia but I keep trying!
Q9: What tips/tricks would you give to other MSers to help them with their disrupted sleeping patterns due to MS?
Keep a log of when you get up; maybe there is a cycle to it. I have a definite cycle - 12:45 PM, 2 AM, 4 AM, 5:15 AM, 6:10 AM. If I get up at 3 AM, it's usually because of my cat because that's HIS cycle. It might not help you fall back asleep right away but it's relatively amusing! And know you aren't alone. Keep a bottle of water by the bed and practice good breathing techniques.
I didn't do a posting for ChatMS last week because all the questions were about how cold weather affects your MS - and I live in California. I don't have any issues with that, so I couldn't relate to any of the questions.
If you are affected by cold weather, please tell me your story! In my case, I only notice issues when it gets above 95.
This week's ChatMS is another one on symptomology. Please feel free to cut/paste the questions to put on your own blog. Keep the conversation going!
Q1: Over 50% of MSers say they experience sleep problems. Are you part of this statistic?
Abso-freaking-lutely. I can't even count on both hands the number of great nights of sleep I have had in the last few years. Being pregnant compounds this, for sure!
Q2: Sleep issues can involve insomnia, apnea, narcolepsy or restless leg syndrome. Do you experience any of these?
Insomnia is the big one. Mostly, when I wake during the night, I can't fall back asleep. I also have restless leg syndrome, and often feel generally 'uncomfortable' for lack of a better word.
Q3: What symptoms do you experience that disrupt your sleeping habits?
See above - but I also have frequent urination, heartburn, nausea, dizziness. Leg cramps!!!! Not all the time, and thank goodness not all at once. But these issues rear their ugly head on occasion and good luck sleeping through that.
Q4: Not sleeping well can have a negative effect on your well being. Does your sleep affect your daily activities?
Absolutely. I can feel when I haven't gotten a good night's sleep - I am more irritable, less tolerant of annoyances and demanding people, and my depression spikes. I do not believe it contributes to my MS fatigue, which is a beast in and of itself.
Q5: Fatigue tends to a common symptom of MS. Do you believe this is this due to your disrupted sleep?
Oh, the fatigue. The fatigue, fatigue, fatigue. Other than pregnancy I cannot imagine anyone really experiencing fatigue the way that MS gives you fatigue.
I have had depression and anxiety for many years - since I was a pre-teen. Depression makes you tired, hopeless, keeps you in bed because you don't want to get out of bed. It's an entirely different feeling from having a cold, having the flu, being 'sick' and not having the strength to get up. MS fatigue is an incredible, overwhelming sensation - not of "I don't want to get up," or even "I don't feel well enough to get up." It is a can NOT. I can NOT get out of bed. I can NOT get off the couch. I am stuck right where I am.
I had a relatively full night's sleep early on in my MS diagnosis days, not when it first began but when I was actually diagnosed. The next day I could not get out of bed. I nearly wet the bed because of this fatigue. I was sitting on my couch and felt what can only be described as a heaviness. I couldn't get up to eat. I couldn't pick up my computer or my phone. I just sat there, at the mercy of my cats. Exhausted, but not tired - I didn't sleep all day. And then I finally understood why 'fatigue,' as one of the most common symptoms of MS, is grossly misunderstood.
Q6: Have you talked to your neuro about your sleeping habits?
Nah - I didn't think she could do anything about it at the beginning, and I had been dealing with so many issues with my sleep habits that adding MS to the causes wasn't going to make too much of a difference.
Q7: Are you on any meds to help you have a good nights rest? Which ones?
Nope.
Q8: If you have extreme insomnia what do you do to help you fall asleep?
Flip my pillow over. Get up and go to the bathroom, roll my husband over so he'll stop snoring. Read something very boring. Climax. Deep breathing, in through the nose and out through the mouth. Clench all my muscles in systematic patterns and release. I have yet to find the perfect cure to insomnia but I keep trying!
Q9: What tips/tricks would you give to other MSers to help them with their disrupted sleeping patterns due to MS?
Keep a log of when you get up; maybe there is a cycle to it. I have a definite cycle - 12:45 PM, 2 AM, 4 AM, 5:15 AM, 6:10 AM. If I get up at 3 AM, it's usually because of my cat because that's HIS cycle. It might not help you fall back asleep right away but it's relatively amusing! And know you aren't alone. Keep a bottle of water by the bed and practice good breathing techniques.
Friday, January 1, 2016
Twlight of Diagnosis
Today I watched a documentary about environmental toxins. Because, as a self-proclaimed and certified nerd, I watch NOVA on my days off, pretty much all day.
One of the interviews I watched was a woman who was talking about diagnosis of cancer, and how the patients who are diagnosed with cancer experience this with a sense of overwhelming detail combined with amnesia. Some may remember every last detail that the doctor said, but can't remember how they got home. Some could describe their surroundings, the feel of the hospital, the bus ride back to reality, but not the actual conversation itself.
Not to be overreaching, but I believe all life-changing or otherwise major diagnoses are received like this. I certainly have more memories of my 'diagnosis' day than I would like, but like to think I handled things better than I could have.
In 2010, when things started falling apart, I felt like a walking disaster. I specifically remember getting glasses for the first time at the end of 2009 and talking with my Planned Parenthood nurse about birth control changes as my moods were erratic. I had only been on the pill for about five or six months, but thought it was my PMS that was causing me to feel 'strange,' for lack of better adjectives. I remember sitting in my office and snacking on saltine crackers because I was certain I couldn't keep anything down.
Most horrifyingly, I remember sitting in the very first day of my adult speech disorder diagnosis class and praying with all my heart that we would get out early as it was the first day, because I was so nauseated I was certain I wouldn't make it to the end. We sat in class for the ENTIRE grueling 2.5 hours. And when I got home, I was in tears. What the hell was wrong with me?
I guess now is the time to mention the irony that this was the very class that taught me everything I knew about MS until my diagnosis, and while I sat at my desk every Tuesday and Thursday convinced that this problem sounded an awful lot like what I was experiencing, my teacher repeated over and over to not go home and think we had it. Huh.
Over the next six months, I learned to deal with my nausea by popping Pepto Bismol tablets every hour or two. I learned that if I took more than 200 mg of Tylenol at a time, I ended up having an 'out of body' experience. I had a raging headache that floored me one day, so I took an Excedrin before going grocery shopping - I remember being so disoriented in the grocery store that I left my cart in the pharmacy section, literally ran to my car, and called my husband crying to come rescue me. I had to be rescued at the grocery store less than a mile away from my home.
I was embarrassed, scared for my heath, but mostly scared that my new marriage would fall apart in the wake of all these new 'issues' that neither of us knew how to deal with. My sex drive absolutely disappeared. I was already stressed out from having the relationship with my best friend dissolve shortly before we were married, and I attributed all such issues with that event. I even thought about writing her to tell her I was sick, but didn't know why.
I remember seeing the movie "Inception" with my good friend Tracey. I was convinced that what was causing my overall strangeness was because of my diet, so I stopped drinking caffeine and ate hardly anything. I tried to drink only water. But I tried to detract attention from my change in diet preferences and didn't complain much to anyone other than my immediate coworker and my husband. At the end of the movie, I couldn't get up. I had to ask Tracey to sit with me until I could get up without falling over. I was mortified. And I remember being just as freaked out at the movie theatre as I was at the grocery store.
But I was convinced things were better when at the end of May, I felt better in general. In fact, I felt better until two years later when my GERD became so bad I couldn't eat without pain. I don't think that was necessarily related to the MS - but it was notable just the same. Occasional nausea would hit but nothing nearly as bad as before, and I no longer felt like I couldn't do things because of the risk of feeling helpless. I still didn't take certain types of medications, certain that the Excedrin caused the episode in the grocery store, and I viewed the first half of 2010 as a terrible memory.
Until I went to work one day in November of 2013. I had been on a road for about twenty minutes when I felt the all too familiar pangs of nausea hitting hard. I remember calling my husband and saying, "not again, I can't do this again." It seemed to quell after a few days but never really went away. My depression spiked for a few weeks, and then subsided. I felt better than I had in a long time. I could actually count the number of days I felt good, until I took a trip to Mexico with my coworkers for a conference. At the conference, I was hit with an anxiety attack so bad that I cried for two straight days. When I came home, I experienced daily stomach cramps, but distracted myself with painting and writing.
Now I know those cramps were MS hugs, and my flare up began in November.
Before I went to the hospital to get diagnosed, I had lost most of the feeling in my left leg from my hip downward, and in the lower part of my right leg and foot. This bilateral numbness was what tipped me off to it being an upper motor neuron problem. I casually mentioned it to a couple of coworkers, with absolutely no response. I mentioned it to my friend, the same friend who I had lost in 2009, knowing that she was familiar with possible MS patients as the only ones I saw had dizziness. She didn't think it was MS. My sister thought I was kidding. I think my husband was hoping it was temporary and would go away in a day or two. But I knew better. It wasn't until the Thursday of that week, the 27th of February 2014, that I said something to the coworker that had MS.
She looked at me with an expression of pity and knowing. And that's when my boss walked in. I wish she hadn't, but I guess I wouldn't have had such an easy time afterward if she hadn't. She pulled me into the kitchen of the office and said, "You can't feel both your legs? You know what this means, right? Where the problem is?" I nodded. And I said a silent prayer. I told her I was going to go to the hospital when I heard back from the neurologist I called.
The next morning in the shower, I nearly passed out, and called in to work. My boss knew why, so I tried not to be too anxious. I was facing the busiest month, and most important, of my graduate career. I had job interviews and/or conferences every week in March, all of them out of state. I had a lot on the line. So I texted my sister that I was going to the ER (it was a shock, remember how I said she thought I was joking?) and told my husband I was going in. From there, all I was hoping was that I wouldn't leave without an answer.
When you go to the ER, you always hope it will go quickly. I was in a brand-new hospital that had just opened just across the street from where I lived (convenient, eh?) and it was a Friday morning at 7:30 AM. It was virtually empty, and I was seen immediately. I was on my period and super embarrassed to take off my clothes. The (very cute, young) ER doctor came in and asked me some questions, most of which I do not remember, and poked at me with a broken long q-tip. I reported that I could feel it, but was puzzled when he asked, "Is this sharp?" No, it wasn't, until... ouch! The bottom of my foot felt that sharp point, and I realized just how bad it was. Not all of my leg was numb, but the neurons were processing sharp and dull inputs differently. It was such a blur. Sometime after that, my sister arrived. I gave a urine sample. I was ordered to have an MRI, which took an hour and a half to do my brain, cervical spine, and thoracic spine. I had a very cold and uncomfortable ultrasound to check for DVT.
I returned to the room, and my husband had arrived. My sister was back, with a box of Good N' Plenty, my only food of the day. She knows me well :). And we waited. We waited for an unknown number of hours, before the cute doctor came back. I knew when they spent a long time after the MRI that they had found something - whenever a doctor tells you "I have to analyze this," unless it's a blood test, they know the results. I have to say it with every vestibular test and I always know the outcome at the end. Your radiologist knows the results of a slow test like an MRI, they just don't have the authority to tell you the results. He sat down on the end of the gurney, and mentioned that there were a few different causes of my numbers. One was Guillane Barre. My ultrasound was normal. Something about my blood tests being relatively normal, but indicating some kind of inflammation. The MRI came last. He mentioned that there were lesions on my MRI that could indicate vasculitis, but most likely they were consistent with multiple sclerosis.
I nodded, knowingly. My husband apparently thought I had a brain tumor, but this was good news in comparison. I don't think my sister quite understood this. I couldn't look at either of them and just looked at the doctor. "So, what's next?" He said I needed a spinal tap to help confirm. I asked if I could fly in a week, he said no, so I had to move my job interview. He said they were going to come in and give me some steroids. That's what I remember of the actual conversation. I remember sending my sister out while I had the spinal tap, which didn't really hurt but was scary. I remember wanting to sit up in the hospital bed because I was hungry, and couldn't eat my grilled cheese while laying down. They wanted me flat to keep me from getting a spinal headache. Then they came in with the Solu-Medrol. They didn't tell me one side effect. It was awful. I remember going home after and driving my car home. I remember getting ice cream with my sister, who was clearly distraught. I don't know why it took so long for my husband to get home, but it did. Maybe he went to the grocery store. Maybe he picked up dessert, but I don't think so. I remember giving my sister the lion painting and trying not to cry. In fact, I didn't. I don't think I cried about my diagnosis until weeks later, during my second round of steroids.
I wrote this account to verify that my hypothesis was correct - there are some things I remember in alarming detail from five, almost six years ago, and there are some things I barely recall. I hope that this encourages you to remember your own diagnosis stories. It may not be you, it may be your kids, your parents, or your friends who want to know the legacy of your story to know that you persevered.
It is now 2016. I have persevered thus far, and have a long way to go, and intend to love every minute that I can. May you all do the same!
MSloan
One of the interviews I watched was a woman who was talking about diagnosis of cancer, and how the patients who are diagnosed with cancer experience this with a sense of overwhelming detail combined with amnesia. Some may remember every last detail that the doctor said, but can't remember how they got home. Some could describe their surroundings, the feel of the hospital, the bus ride back to reality, but not the actual conversation itself.
Not to be overreaching, but I believe all life-changing or otherwise major diagnoses are received like this. I certainly have more memories of my 'diagnosis' day than I would like, but like to think I handled things better than I could have.
In 2010, when things started falling apart, I felt like a walking disaster. I specifically remember getting glasses for the first time at the end of 2009 and talking with my Planned Parenthood nurse about birth control changes as my moods were erratic. I had only been on the pill for about five or six months, but thought it was my PMS that was causing me to feel 'strange,' for lack of better adjectives. I remember sitting in my office and snacking on saltine crackers because I was certain I couldn't keep anything down.
Most horrifyingly, I remember sitting in the very first day of my adult speech disorder diagnosis class and praying with all my heart that we would get out early as it was the first day, because I was so nauseated I was certain I wouldn't make it to the end. We sat in class for the ENTIRE grueling 2.5 hours. And when I got home, I was in tears. What the hell was wrong with me?
I guess now is the time to mention the irony that this was the very class that taught me everything I knew about MS until my diagnosis, and while I sat at my desk every Tuesday and Thursday convinced that this problem sounded an awful lot like what I was experiencing, my teacher repeated over and over to not go home and think we had it. Huh.
Over the next six months, I learned to deal with my nausea by popping Pepto Bismol tablets every hour or two. I learned that if I took more than 200 mg of Tylenol at a time, I ended up having an 'out of body' experience. I had a raging headache that floored me one day, so I took an Excedrin before going grocery shopping - I remember being so disoriented in the grocery store that I left my cart in the pharmacy section, literally ran to my car, and called my husband crying to come rescue me. I had to be rescued at the grocery store less than a mile away from my home.
I was embarrassed, scared for my heath, but mostly scared that my new marriage would fall apart in the wake of all these new 'issues' that neither of us knew how to deal with. My sex drive absolutely disappeared. I was already stressed out from having the relationship with my best friend dissolve shortly before we were married, and I attributed all such issues with that event. I even thought about writing her to tell her I was sick, but didn't know why.
I remember seeing the movie "Inception" with my good friend Tracey. I was convinced that what was causing my overall strangeness was because of my diet, so I stopped drinking caffeine and ate hardly anything. I tried to drink only water. But I tried to detract attention from my change in diet preferences and didn't complain much to anyone other than my immediate coworker and my husband. At the end of the movie, I couldn't get up. I had to ask Tracey to sit with me until I could get up without falling over. I was mortified. And I remember being just as freaked out at the movie theatre as I was at the grocery store.
But I was convinced things were better when at the end of May, I felt better in general. In fact, I felt better until two years later when my GERD became so bad I couldn't eat without pain. I don't think that was necessarily related to the MS - but it was notable just the same. Occasional nausea would hit but nothing nearly as bad as before, and I no longer felt like I couldn't do things because of the risk of feeling helpless. I still didn't take certain types of medications, certain that the Excedrin caused the episode in the grocery store, and I viewed the first half of 2010 as a terrible memory.
Until I went to work one day in November of 2013. I had been on a road for about twenty minutes when I felt the all too familiar pangs of nausea hitting hard. I remember calling my husband and saying, "not again, I can't do this again." It seemed to quell after a few days but never really went away. My depression spiked for a few weeks, and then subsided. I felt better than I had in a long time. I could actually count the number of days I felt good, until I took a trip to Mexico with my coworkers for a conference. At the conference, I was hit with an anxiety attack so bad that I cried for two straight days. When I came home, I experienced daily stomach cramps, but distracted myself with painting and writing.
Now I know those cramps were MS hugs, and my flare up began in November.
Before I went to the hospital to get diagnosed, I had lost most of the feeling in my left leg from my hip downward, and in the lower part of my right leg and foot. This bilateral numbness was what tipped me off to it being an upper motor neuron problem. I casually mentioned it to a couple of coworkers, with absolutely no response. I mentioned it to my friend, the same friend who I had lost in 2009, knowing that she was familiar with possible MS patients as the only ones I saw had dizziness. She didn't think it was MS. My sister thought I was kidding. I think my husband was hoping it was temporary and would go away in a day or two. But I knew better. It wasn't until the Thursday of that week, the 27th of February 2014, that I said something to the coworker that had MS.
She looked at me with an expression of pity and knowing. And that's when my boss walked in. I wish she hadn't, but I guess I wouldn't have had such an easy time afterward if she hadn't. She pulled me into the kitchen of the office and said, "You can't feel both your legs? You know what this means, right? Where the problem is?" I nodded. And I said a silent prayer. I told her I was going to go to the hospital when I heard back from the neurologist I called.
The next morning in the shower, I nearly passed out, and called in to work. My boss knew why, so I tried not to be too anxious. I was facing the busiest month, and most important, of my graduate career. I had job interviews and/or conferences every week in March, all of them out of state. I had a lot on the line. So I texted my sister that I was going to the ER (it was a shock, remember how I said she thought I was joking?) and told my husband I was going in. From there, all I was hoping was that I wouldn't leave without an answer.
When you go to the ER, you always hope it will go quickly. I was in a brand-new hospital that had just opened just across the street from where I lived (convenient, eh?) and it was a Friday morning at 7:30 AM. It was virtually empty, and I was seen immediately. I was on my period and super embarrassed to take off my clothes. The (very cute, young) ER doctor came in and asked me some questions, most of which I do not remember, and poked at me with a broken long q-tip. I reported that I could feel it, but was puzzled when he asked, "Is this sharp?" No, it wasn't, until... ouch! The bottom of my foot felt that sharp point, and I realized just how bad it was. Not all of my leg was numb, but the neurons were processing sharp and dull inputs differently. It was such a blur. Sometime after that, my sister arrived. I gave a urine sample. I was ordered to have an MRI, which took an hour and a half to do my brain, cervical spine, and thoracic spine. I had a very cold and uncomfortable ultrasound to check for DVT.
I returned to the room, and my husband had arrived. My sister was back, with a box of Good N' Plenty, my only food of the day. She knows me well :). And we waited. We waited for an unknown number of hours, before the cute doctor came back. I knew when they spent a long time after the MRI that they had found something - whenever a doctor tells you "I have to analyze this," unless it's a blood test, they know the results. I have to say it with every vestibular test and I always know the outcome at the end. Your radiologist knows the results of a slow test like an MRI, they just don't have the authority to tell you the results. He sat down on the end of the gurney, and mentioned that there were a few different causes of my numbers. One was Guillane Barre. My ultrasound was normal. Something about my blood tests being relatively normal, but indicating some kind of inflammation. The MRI came last. He mentioned that there were lesions on my MRI that could indicate vasculitis, but most likely they were consistent with multiple sclerosis.
I nodded, knowingly. My husband apparently thought I had a brain tumor, but this was good news in comparison. I don't think my sister quite understood this. I couldn't look at either of them and just looked at the doctor. "So, what's next?" He said I needed a spinal tap to help confirm. I asked if I could fly in a week, he said no, so I had to move my job interview. He said they were going to come in and give me some steroids. That's what I remember of the actual conversation. I remember sending my sister out while I had the spinal tap, which didn't really hurt but was scary. I remember wanting to sit up in the hospital bed because I was hungry, and couldn't eat my grilled cheese while laying down. They wanted me flat to keep me from getting a spinal headache. Then they came in with the Solu-Medrol. They didn't tell me one side effect. It was awful. I remember going home after and driving my car home. I remember getting ice cream with my sister, who was clearly distraught. I don't know why it took so long for my husband to get home, but it did. Maybe he went to the grocery store. Maybe he picked up dessert, but I don't think so. I remember giving my sister the lion painting and trying not to cry. In fact, I didn't. I don't think I cried about my diagnosis until weeks later, during my second round of steroids.
I wrote this account to verify that my hypothesis was correct - there are some things I remember in alarming detail from five, almost six years ago, and there are some things I barely recall. I hope that this encourages you to remember your own diagnosis stories. It may not be you, it may be your kids, your parents, or your friends who want to know the legacy of your story to know that you persevered.
It is now 2016. I have persevered thus far, and have a long way to go, and intend to love every minute that I can. May you all do the same!
MSloan
Saturday, December 5, 2015
Bye bye, right eye
I am... more than a little bit disappointed. Well, I guess disappointed isn't the right word.
I feel mislead.
I feel like I have been told from the get-go that pregnancy increases remission of multiple sclerosis, especially as the pregnancy progresses. Every resource I've looked at talks about the wonders of pregnancy during MS, even if there is an increased likelihood of relapse shortly after birth.
As if that prospect isn't terrifying enough, and has implications about breastfeeding that not a single person talked with me about it, I am having serious relapses while pregnant.
The first I wrote about a few weeks ago; my feet went numb again. This is very clearly an MS symptom and not due to pregnancy, because I am not heavy set in the slightest, and otherwise have not gained enough weight to cause that sort of symptom. Usually, that is brought on by water retention and compressed nerves due to weight gain. I did feel carpal tunnel pain and tingling in my hands, but that was long before I had the feet numbness. Even when I first found out I was pregnant, I had a symptom that I call 'short circuit,' where I would touch a certain part of my arm and I would feel it somewhere else. VERY weird. Like, touch your arm just below your wrist and imagine you are feeling it at your elbow. Makes you constantly slap your arms thinking you have a bug on you when you're just eating or writing.
Well, now I have had another serious symptom. I can't see out of my right eye.
Now, it's not like I haven't had this type of thing before; I had optic neuritis shortly after my big relapse in February of 2014 and it was incredibly painful. Shortly thereafter, I went to Las Vegas for a medical conference, and all lights had halos - it was certainly strange, and I did have double vision intermittently. But by the time I got home, it seemed to be relatively normal. I had an optic/cluster headache earlier this year, but thankfully didn't have any visual disturbances.
This time, there is no pain. I have a headache daily because of my pregnancy and it feels different from my typical tension headache. This one is more likely hormonal or dehydration, which I try to battle as much as I can. Optic Neuritis pain is specifically over the affected eye and not a single drug will touch it. So, for the most part, I am thankful that this one has no pain.
Thursday evening, I was at the grocery store after work when I noticed that something just didn't look right. I think I took my glasses off at least five times to clean them, to no avail. I got home and sat at my computer uploading to my Society 6 account and still felt like something didn't look right. I went to my pregnancy class and thought, "well, maybe it's the lighting in here." I came home and things still didn't look right, but the best way to describe it was an afterimage of a bright light - like when someone takes a lot of pictures all at once.
Friday morning I woke up and while I was in the bathroom, I noticed that I couldn't see to my right. I turn to my right to get tissue and my earplug. Nope... all fuzzy. I didn't even wash my hair - I was afraid that my retina was detaching because I felt no pain and I also had been seeing intermittent bright lights when I raised my hands over my head. If I had any other job, I would have stayed home. Fast forward a few more hours, the dark area got bigger and bigger, and now at least a quarter of my vision on the right is totally shot and distorted, while the rest just feels 'off.' After a visit to the opthalmologist (who I couldn't get to understand the nature of my problem), we finally agreed that it was retrobulbar optic neuritis, related to my multiple sclerosis, and not my pregnancy.
This sucks. This SUCKS. If you were to draw a square, the entire left/bottom quarter is essentially missing. In one eye alone, this isn't the worst thing in the world. But when I look with both eyes together, this region is in the middle of my vision, and it's very distracting. When things move in this area of my vision, it looks like static. My eye is working okay, it's my brain that's all screwed up!
I can't do the usual steroid treatment because I am pregnant. I feel so helpless. Like, what should I do? What will happen? It seems to be getting darker. I don't know if it's getting bigger. I don't know how long it will take to get better. Thank God I am left-eye dominant and look into people's ears on the opposite side. This is just ... unfair and ridiculous. I feel lied to, mislead, and angry. I'm 20 weeks pregnant with a little girl, I have bigger fish to fry, immune system! Why have you not calmed down yet??!!
Oy.
MSloan
I feel mislead.
I feel like I have been told from the get-go that pregnancy increases remission of multiple sclerosis, especially as the pregnancy progresses. Every resource I've looked at talks about the wonders of pregnancy during MS, even if there is an increased likelihood of relapse shortly after birth.
As if that prospect isn't terrifying enough, and has implications about breastfeeding that not a single person talked with me about it, I am having serious relapses while pregnant.
The first I wrote about a few weeks ago; my feet went numb again. This is very clearly an MS symptom and not due to pregnancy, because I am not heavy set in the slightest, and otherwise have not gained enough weight to cause that sort of symptom. Usually, that is brought on by water retention and compressed nerves due to weight gain. I did feel carpal tunnel pain and tingling in my hands, but that was long before I had the feet numbness. Even when I first found out I was pregnant, I had a symptom that I call 'short circuit,' where I would touch a certain part of my arm and I would feel it somewhere else. VERY weird. Like, touch your arm just below your wrist and imagine you are feeling it at your elbow. Makes you constantly slap your arms thinking you have a bug on you when you're just eating or writing.
Well, now I have had another serious symptom. I can't see out of my right eye.
Now, it's not like I haven't had this type of thing before; I had optic neuritis shortly after my big relapse in February of 2014 and it was incredibly painful. Shortly thereafter, I went to Las Vegas for a medical conference, and all lights had halos - it was certainly strange, and I did have double vision intermittently. But by the time I got home, it seemed to be relatively normal. I had an optic/cluster headache earlier this year, but thankfully didn't have any visual disturbances.
This time, there is no pain. I have a headache daily because of my pregnancy and it feels different from my typical tension headache. This one is more likely hormonal or dehydration, which I try to battle as much as I can. Optic Neuritis pain is specifically over the affected eye and not a single drug will touch it. So, for the most part, I am thankful that this one has no pain.
Thursday evening, I was at the grocery store after work when I noticed that something just didn't look right. I think I took my glasses off at least five times to clean them, to no avail. I got home and sat at my computer uploading to my Society 6 account and still felt like something didn't look right. I went to my pregnancy class and thought, "well, maybe it's the lighting in here." I came home and things still didn't look right, but the best way to describe it was an afterimage of a bright light - like when someone takes a lot of pictures all at once.
Friday morning I woke up and while I was in the bathroom, I noticed that I couldn't see to my right. I turn to my right to get tissue and my earplug. Nope... all fuzzy. I didn't even wash my hair - I was afraid that my retina was detaching because I felt no pain and I also had been seeing intermittent bright lights when I raised my hands over my head. If I had any other job, I would have stayed home. Fast forward a few more hours, the dark area got bigger and bigger, and now at least a quarter of my vision on the right is totally shot and distorted, while the rest just feels 'off.' After a visit to the opthalmologist (who I couldn't get to understand the nature of my problem), we finally agreed that it was retrobulbar optic neuritis, related to my multiple sclerosis, and not my pregnancy.
This sucks. This SUCKS. If you were to draw a square, the entire left/bottom quarter is essentially missing. In one eye alone, this isn't the worst thing in the world. But when I look with both eyes together, this region is in the middle of my vision, and it's very distracting. When things move in this area of my vision, it looks like static. My eye is working okay, it's my brain that's all screwed up!
I can't do the usual steroid treatment because I am pregnant. I feel so helpless. Like, what should I do? What will happen? It seems to be getting darker. I don't know if it's getting bigger. I don't know how long it will take to get better. Thank God I am left-eye dominant and look into people's ears on the opposite side. This is just ... unfair and ridiculous. I feel lied to, mislead, and angry. I'm 20 weeks pregnant with a little girl, I have bigger fish to fry, immune system! Why have you not calmed down yet??!!
Oy.
MSloan
Chat MS - 11/30/2015
This last Chat MS was all about MS research, a topic dear to my little science heart! Please don't hesitate to copy/paste to your own blog to keep the conversation going!
Q1 – Do you keep up to date with latest#MultipleSclerosis news and research articles?
I do a bit - since I am in the loop for new hearing science developments, I occasionally come across good Multiple Sclerosis treatments. I do of course read the ones that get distributed by the National MS Society.
Q2 – What is your “go to” place for the latest in#MultipleSclerosis information?
National MS Society and, believe it or not, Twitter. Unlike Facebook, I have found the Twitter is a really great way to stay up to date on the latest research and developments with MS because I follow a fair amount of heavy hitters. I recommend it to anyone looking for regular answers and a real community.
Q3 – It seems each week there may be a breakthrough or “game changer” when it comes to treatment. What has you excited the most?
Ah man, I see this all the time, but honestly I haven't seen a lot of stuff that excites me. However, my dad hears things all the time and is really excited about them for me. He learned about the bee sting study and got really hyped up and told me about it every time we talked on the phone for a month. My dad doesn't talk to me on the phone. So yeah, he thought it was a pretty big deal!
Q4 – Have you or would you ever enroll in a clinical trial to see how something new may affect your MS?
ABSO-FREAKING-LUTELY. I have been a part of a research study on physical ability and MRI correlates at the University of Colorado at Boulder. I enrolled just after my diagnosis. It is SO important to participate in research, even if it isn't a clinical trial.
Q5 – In many cases we see articles claiming breakthroughs but never seem to hear anything else. Why do you think this is?
This is the sad reality of science. Single studies are not enough to effect real change. Some studies look great on the surface, but repeat studies do not find the same thing. There has to be a repeatable response for it to be transferred into a real FDA-approved treatment.
Q6 – There are trials on-going for treatments that repair myelin. Would you be interested in this? Or is it “just another drug”?
I think this is excellent! But right now - - I am a bit skeptical. I fear that medication that can increase myelin would be hard pressed to be controlled enough not to over produce and cause an adverse effect, specifically causing other diseases like neurofibromatosis, which is essentially the evil opposition to MS.
Q7 - What is a cure to you? Stopped progression forever? or complete reversal of symptoms?
Both of course! Stopped progression is incredibly important to me. More research on medications and the JC virus. More research on effective medications that don't cause OTHER problems.
Q8 – Do you think we will see a#MultipleSclerosis cure in the next 10 years?
.... realistically?
No. I am not trying to be a bad news bear, but even if there was a major breakthrough in the progressing of MS and how to halt it in its tracks, it would most likely be over 20 years before we see that get distributed out to the masses. Because of the nature of MS, the relapsing part of the disease makes it all the more difficult to understand the effectiveness of things such as 'cures.' There's very much a difficulty here in how to determine what is really causing the relapses to halt - is it because that person's disease is just relaxing? Or is it because of the medication? This is why MS is so hard to pinpoint.
Thanks for reading, all! MSloan
Q1 – Do you keep up to date with latest
I do a bit - since I am in the loop for new hearing science developments, I occasionally come across good Multiple Sclerosis treatments. I do of course read the ones that get distributed by the National MS Society.
Q2 – What is your “go to” place for the latest in
National MS Society and, believe it or not, Twitter. Unlike Facebook, I have found the Twitter is a really great way to stay up to date on the latest research and developments with MS because I follow a fair amount of heavy hitters. I recommend it to anyone looking for regular answers and a real community.
Q3 – It seems each week there may be a breakthrough or “game changer” when it comes to treatment. What has you excited the most?
Ah man, I see this all the time, but honestly I haven't seen a lot of stuff that excites me. However, my dad hears things all the time and is really excited about them for me. He learned about the bee sting study and got really hyped up and told me about it every time we talked on the phone for a month. My dad doesn't talk to me on the phone. So yeah, he thought it was a pretty big deal!
Q4 – Have you or would you ever enroll in a clinical trial to see how something new may affect your MS?
ABSO-FREAKING-LUTELY. I have been a part of a research study on physical ability and MRI correlates at the University of Colorado at Boulder. I enrolled just after my diagnosis. It is SO important to participate in research, even if it isn't a clinical trial.
Q5 – In many cases we see articles claiming breakthroughs but never seem to hear anything else. Why do you think this is?
This is the sad reality of science. Single studies are not enough to effect real change. Some studies look great on the surface, but repeat studies do not find the same thing. There has to be a repeatable response for it to be transferred into a real FDA-approved treatment.
Q6 – There are trials on-going for treatments that repair myelin. Would you be interested in this? Or is it “just another drug”?
I think this is excellent! But right now - - I am a bit skeptical. I fear that medication that can increase myelin would be hard pressed to be controlled enough not to over produce and cause an adverse effect, specifically causing other diseases like neurofibromatosis, which is essentially the evil opposition to MS.
Q7 - What is a cure to you? Stopped progression forever? or complete reversal of symptoms?
Both of course! Stopped progression is incredibly important to me. More research on medications and the JC virus. More research on effective medications that don't cause OTHER problems.
Q8 – Do you think we will see a
.... realistically?
No. I am not trying to be a bad news bear, but even if there was a major breakthrough in the progressing of MS and how to halt it in its tracks, it would most likely be over 20 years before we see that get distributed out to the masses. Because of the nature of MS, the relapsing part of the disease makes it all the more difficult to understand the effectiveness of things such as 'cures.' There's very much a difficulty here in how to determine what is really causing the relapses to halt - is it because that person's disease is just relaxing? Or is it because of the medication? This is why MS is so hard to pinpoint.
Thanks for reading, all! MSloan
Thursday, November 26, 2015
Chat MS - 11/23/2015
This week's Chat MS was about social anxiety with MS - please feel free to copy/paste the questions to your own blog.
Remember to keep the conversation going and have a great Thanksgiving -
Q1 – MS can cause or add to social anxiety. Do you experience Social Anxiety since being diagnosed with MS?
Absolutely. I already have general anxiety disorder, and when I'm having a flare or especially after I was initially diagnosed, I had even more bouts of it.
Q2 – What contributes most to your social anxiety? (A certain symptom, using an assisting device, someone’s actions, etc.)
This biggest thing is that I have MS at all. People don't understand it and I want to educate them, but at the same time I 'don't want to talk about it.' This goes especially with my coworkers and bosses, because having MS makes me an ADA risk. I have lost job opportunities after one of the potential employers found out I had MS and clearly didn't really understand what that meant. I have not missed a day of work because of my MS in over 18 months.
I also struggle with telling people that I'm with about the possibility of my fatiguing quickly. I have a relatively svelte figure, am tall and thin, and otherwise look healthy. When I mention that I'm too tired to do something, I get a lot of eye rolls. I look good on the outside, but on the inside, I'm struggling to stay alert. This is really a hard thing to feel good about.
Q3 – On a scale of 1-10 (10 being the worst), how severe would you say your average anxiety bout is?
7 or 8. I tip to 10 when I have to drive somewhere - but driving is my general anxiety trigger anyway.
Q4 – Are there situations or places you purposely avoid because of your anxiety?
Not necessarily, but I am known to be flaky because I'll feel good about doing something the day before, but when I wake up, I'm just not up for it. This happens a lot. It's the most common issue I struggle with when I'm not having an active flare up. I remember being able to go all day on my feet, working full time in a job where I couldn't sit down, and get up and go the next day with no issue. Pain free. I miss those times.
Q5 – Have you discussed social anxiety with your neuro? What did they say?
Nah - it never really came up and I doubt he can do anything about it. Unfortunately social anxiety is not like GAD and isn't really affected by medication.
Q6 – Do you ever worry or get anxious about things that have not happened and may never happen?
Abso-freaking-lutely. All the time. I am afraid I'll wake up and not be able to move, my baby will be crying, and I won't be able to help. I have this dream a lot, and it makes me think about it all day long. I worry about my ability to get around. I worry I will have a flare that affects my hands and I won't be able to work. I worry I will be out with friends and will have to stop before they're ready to.
Q7 - What do you feel when you experience social anxiety?
I get quiet and I don't want to talk to anyone at all. I'm not an easy crier but it makes me feel like I am about to flood the room. My heart beats quickly and I feel like I might pass out - it's very close to a panic attack.
Q8 – What helps you overcome bouts of social anxiety and what tips would you have for others?
The best thing is to spend time with people who are willing to ask questions. Tell people you don't feel well. But I still really struggle with this because I don't like getting eyes rolled at me - because frankly, people don't believe me.
Love to all - MSloan
Remember to keep the conversation going and have a great Thanksgiving -
Q1 – MS can cause or add to social anxiety. Do you experience Social Anxiety since being diagnosed with MS?
Absolutely. I already have general anxiety disorder, and when I'm having a flare or especially after I was initially diagnosed, I had even more bouts of it.
Q2 – What contributes most to your social anxiety? (A certain symptom, using an assisting device, someone’s actions, etc.)
This biggest thing is that I have MS at all. People don't understand it and I want to educate them, but at the same time I 'don't want to talk about it.' This goes especially with my coworkers and bosses, because having MS makes me an ADA risk. I have lost job opportunities after one of the potential employers found out I had MS and clearly didn't really understand what that meant. I have not missed a day of work because of my MS in over 18 months.
I also struggle with telling people that I'm with about the possibility of my fatiguing quickly. I have a relatively svelte figure, am tall and thin, and otherwise look healthy. When I mention that I'm too tired to do something, I get a lot of eye rolls. I look good on the outside, but on the inside, I'm struggling to stay alert. This is really a hard thing to feel good about.
Q3 – On a scale of 1-10 (10 being the worst), how severe would you say your average anxiety bout is?
7 or 8. I tip to 10 when I have to drive somewhere - but driving is my general anxiety trigger anyway.
Q4 – Are there situations or places you purposely avoid because of your anxiety?
Not necessarily, but I am known to be flaky because I'll feel good about doing something the day before, but when I wake up, I'm just not up for it. This happens a lot. It's the most common issue I struggle with when I'm not having an active flare up. I remember being able to go all day on my feet, working full time in a job where I couldn't sit down, and get up and go the next day with no issue. Pain free. I miss those times.
Q5 – Have you discussed social anxiety with your neuro? What did they say?
Nah - it never really came up and I doubt he can do anything about it. Unfortunately social anxiety is not like GAD and isn't really affected by medication.
Q6 – Do you ever worry or get anxious about things that have not happened and may never happen?
Abso-freaking-lutely. All the time. I am afraid I'll wake up and not be able to move, my baby will be crying, and I won't be able to help. I have this dream a lot, and it makes me think about it all day long. I worry about my ability to get around. I worry I will have a flare that affects my hands and I won't be able to work. I worry I will be out with friends and will have to stop before they're ready to.
Q7 - What do you feel when you experience social anxiety?
I get quiet and I don't want to talk to anyone at all. I'm not an easy crier but it makes me feel like I am about to flood the room. My heart beats quickly and I feel like I might pass out - it's very close to a panic attack.
Q8 – What helps you overcome bouts of social anxiety and what tips would you have for others?
The best thing is to spend time with people who are willing to ask questions. Tell people you don't feel well. But I still really struggle with this because I don't like getting eyes rolled at me - because frankly, people don't believe me.
Love to all - MSloan
Monday, November 9, 2015
Chat MS - 11/09/2015
This week's Chat MS dealt with weight gain; I missed the live chat, but hopefully this keeps it going!
If we don't talk about it, progress has no chance! Please feel free to copy/paste to your own blog to include those who don't participate in weekly Chat MS.
I haven't experienced weight gain as a result of my MS, but I have had other symptoms that are semi-related to this. I will do the best I can to stay relevant with these answers!
Q1 - Although it may be overlooked, it’s common for MSers to gain weight. Have you experienced weight gain since diagnosis?
I was fortunate in that it didn't give me weight gain, at least not a noticeable amount. Being pregnant is much worse for the figure :) but I am a stress starver instead of a stress eater, which might have been the biggest reason why instead of gaining weight, I lost weight after my diagnosis.
Q2 – Weight gain can be contributed to fatigue making it difficult to stay active. Would you say this contributed?
What kept me from being active the most was not fatigue, though that definitely played a part. When I exercised, my numbness got worse. I couldn't feel my legs - at all. I felt very unstable. It's really hard to run if you can't feel your feet AND your legs - I ended up doing a lot of yoga which didn't exercise me as well as I wanted it to, and I was afraid I might tear something because I couldn't self-monitor my limits as well.
Q3 – A side effects of steroids is also weight gain. With steroids commonly used for relapses, have you noticed this?
Nah - worst effect with the steroids was no sleep, dead tired during the day, and altered taste. Yuck!
Q4 – MS can cause weight gain, yet being overweight can worsen symptoms. Have you adjusted your lifestyle do to weight gain?
No comment here -
Q5 – Have you noticed a difference after changing your eating habits and/or exercise routines? If so, in what way?
I have to say - I had to change my eating habits because I was chasing the causes of certain exacerbated symptoms. My MS hugs were nauseating and debilitating. They would come in waves throughout the day. I then found out my gallbladder was somewhat on the fritz - they wanted to remove it but I didn't understand why no gallbladder was somehow better than an organ that worked a few percentage points lower than 'optimal.' I had odd lower-right pain that felt like an ovarian cyst - but no cyst. It was very painful. Appendix was fine. Now, I'm doing okay without pain and I tracked down the cause of what I was calling MS hugs for so long - - an overload of almonds would set it off, as would my Centrum chewy multivitamins. Who knew?
Q6 – Yoga is great for symptom relief, fatigue relief, and weight loss. Have you done yoga? Any particular yoga program?
I love yoga - but I wouldn't do anything other than gentle yoga until my numbness subsided. It is so easy to hurt yourself if you can't feel your muscles saying 'stop,' and the whole point of yoga is to stretch. You can end up giving yourself a problem you don't already have, so be careful! But I have to say, when I started doing yoga (and my wonderful husband did it with me), I loved that I was moving muscles I didn't know I had.
Q7 - what other tips or advice would you give to MSers who are are experiencing weight gain?
My biggest advice would be to try not to stress about your weight on top of everything else you are dealing with. Your body is trying to heal. If your body gains weight after steroid treatment, the swelling will go down. Don't panic, and definitely don't overwork yourself. Save your spoons, so to speak, and listen to what your body says!
That's all, folks! Love to all -
MSloan
If we don't talk about it, progress has no chance! Please feel free to copy/paste to your own blog to include those who don't participate in weekly Chat MS.
I haven't experienced weight gain as a result of my MS, but I have had other symptoms that are semi-related to this. I will do the best I can to stay relevant with these answers!
Q1 - Although it may be overlooked, it’s common for MSers to gain weight. Have you experienced weight gain since diagnosis?
I was fortunate in that it didn't give me weight gain, at least not a noticeable amount. Being pregnant is much worse for the figure :) but I am a stress starver instead of a stress eater, which might have been the biggest reason why instead of gaining weight, I lost weight after my diagnosis.
Q2 – Weight gain can be contributed to fatigue making it difficult to stay active. Would you say this contributed?
What kept me from being active the most was not fatigue, though that definitely played a part. When I exercised, my numbness got worse. I couldn't feel my legs - at all. I felt very unstable. It's really hard to run if you can't feel your feet AND your legs - I ended up doing a lot of yoga which didn't exercise me as well as I wanted it to, and I was afraid I might tear something because I couldn't self-monitor my limits as well.
Q3 – A side effects of steroids is also weight gain. With steroids commonly used for relapses, have you noticed this?
Nah - worst effect with the steroids was no sleep, dead tired during the day, and altered taste. Yuck!
Q4 – MS can cause weight gain, yet being overweight can worsen symptoms. Have you adjusted your lifestyle do to weight gain?
No comment here -
Q5 – Have you noticed a difference after changing your eating habits and/or exercise routines? If so, in what way?
I have to say - I had to change my eating habits because I was chasing the causes of certain exacerbated symptoms. My MS hugs were nauseating and debilitating. They would come in waves throughout the day. I then found out my gallbladder was somewhat on the fritz - they wanted to remove it but I didn't understand why no gallbladder was somehow better than an organ that worked a few percentage points lower than 'optimal.' I had odd lower-right pain that felt like an ovarian cyst - but no cyst. It was very painful. Appendix was fine. Now, I'm doing okay without pain and I tracked down the cause of what I was calling MS hugs for so long - - an overload of almonds would set it off, as would my Centrum chewy multivitamins. Who knew?
Q6 – Yoga is great for symptom relief, fatigue relief, and weight loss. Have you done yoga? Any particular yoga program?
I love yoga - but I wouldn't do anything other than gentle yoga until my numbness subsided. It is so easy to hurt yourself if you can't feel your muscles saying 'stop,' and the whole point of yoga is to stretch. You can end up giving yourself a problem you don't already have, so be careful! But I have to say, when I started doing yoga (and my wonderful husband did it with me), I loved that I was moving muscles I didn't know I had.
Q7 - what other tips or advice would you give to MSers who are are experiencing weight gain?
My biggest advice would be to try not to stress about your weight on top of everything else you are dealing with. Your body is trying to heal. If your body gains weight after steroid treatment, the swelling will go down. Don't panic, and definitely don't overwork yourself. Save your spoons, so to speak, and listen to what your body says!
That's all, folks! Love to all -
MSloan
Saturday, October 31, 2015
Baby Blanket
I started a baby blanket last night! Well, I attempted to, until I was hit with a wave of fatigue so hard I thought I was going to pass out, while sitting down! I had just enough energy to take my prenatal and crawl into bed.
Where I proceeded to lie awake for several hours. AUGH! I can't be alone in this. I feel like a Nirvana lyric.
I did, however, 'wake up' this morning and went for a walk to the local donut shop. Cake donut with sprinkles - mm! I am still not gaining anywhere near enough weight for my pregnancy, in fact I am losing weight, so I'm trying to remember to eat during the day. I have never been successful at putting on weight when I want to. Stop bitching - I'm tall and have skinny genes, so this has always been more of a 'bean pole' struggle than you might think.
My baby blanket is a light teal, gray, and yellow, as we don't know the sex of the baby yet and I like the colors - it will go well with our Pooh themed nursery! I like my glider, I especially like that while I'm crocheting I am not able to focus on the numbness in my feet. It seems to be the worst at night, gets better at about 11 AM, and then fluctuates for the rest of the day until about 9 PM when it gets really bad again. Thus far, it has not creeped up my legs much, and I'm taking that as a good sign!
Neurologist decided not to do an MRI due to 'unknown risk to the fetus,' I was under the impression that an MRI was safe during pregnancy but I will defer to his judgment unless something really gets worse.
Enough for now, back to crocheting and watching "Moonrise Kingdom." I love Wes Anderson movies, don't you? Over and out -
MSloan
Where I proceeded to lie awake for several hours. AUGH! I can't be alone in this. I feel like a Nirvana lyric.
I did, however, 'wake up' this morning and went for a walk to the local donut shop. Cake donut with sprinkles - mm! I am still not gaining anywhere near enough weight for my pregnancy, in fact I am losing weight, so I'm trying to remember to eat during the day. I have never been successful at putting on weight when I want to. Stop bitching - I'm tall and have skinny genes, so this has always been more of a 'bean pole' struggle than you might think.
My baby blanket is a light teal, gray, and yellow, as we don't know the sex of the baby yet and I like the colors - it will go well with our Pooh themed nursery! I like my glider, I especially like that while I'm crocheting I am not able to focus on the numbness in my feet. It seems to be the worst at night, gets better at about 11 AM, and then fluctuates for the rest of the day until about 9 PM when it gets really bad again. Thus far, it has not creeped up my legs much, and I'm taking that as a good sign!
Neurologist decided not to do an MRI due to 'unknown risk to the fetus,' I was under the impression that an MRI was safe during pregnancy but I will defer to his judgment unless something really gets worse.
Enough for now, back to crocheting and watching "Moonrise Kingdom." I love Wes Anderson movies, don't you? Over and out -
MSloan
Thursday, October 29, 2015
Feeling Low
Sometimes I feel like I'm climbing a mountain with no summit and no oxygen. I keep climbing and climbing, but I just can't get there. I am frozen with cold. I can't feel my feet. I can't feel my fingers. But I keep climbing anyway.
What am I doing this for?
Looking in the mirror lately is just that much more difficult. I'm breaking out and the acne won't stop. My hair is a disaster. I want to get it cut but I can't afford it, and I really can't afford the maintenance trims on a short cut right now. I am not gaining enough weight, which is stressing me out. The stress makes my MS worse. That stresses me out even more. So I don't eat, because I'm stressed, and have no appetite. So I'm not gaining enough weight. Which stresses me out.
Forget the mountain. I'm on a bridge that goes in circles, precariously over a disastrous cavern, with no end in sight.
I asked him to do a single thing, load the dishwasher, three days ago. He keeps telling me how tired he is. I am trying not to be insulted. But then he mentions it again. Talks about it when he's home from work. Complains when he gets up in the morning. "I'm tired." I'm sorry you're tired. I'm pregnant and have MS, work full time, and then have to take care of this house when I come home. You stayed home for 2 days this week and cleaned not a single inch of this apartment. We BOTH live here. Why is it only my job? I don't complain about being tired any more. I have been tired since February 2014. I've been exhausted beyond belief for the last three months. I can't sleep through the night because I have to get up three times to pee, and when I get up, my brain doesn't shut off. Baby hasn't even arrived yet and I'm pulling all-nighters while you push your huge comforter onto my side of the bed, where I already have limited real estate.
So you're tired? Climb the damn mountain. You'll know the real meaning of exhaustion then, too.
Sorry. I know he's doing his best. I can't fault him for everything. But it doesn't feel like a nice thing to do the dishes when I have to force you into doing them. I'd rather do it myself, when I know it will get done, and I know they will be clean, instead of having to redo them tomorrow when you're gone at yet ANOTHER camping trip with the scouts and I'm home alone. AGAIN. To clean and take care of the house. AGAIN. How the hell can I start nesting if you won't help me? I can't keep up.
I'm tired.
MSloan
What am I doing this for?
Looking in the mirror lately is just that much more difficult. I'm breaking out and the acne won't stop. My hair is a disaster. I want to get it cut but I can't afford it, and I really can't afford the maintenance trims on a short cut right now. I am not gaining enough weight, which is stressing me out. The stress makes my MS worse. That stresses me out even more. So I don't eat, because I'm stressed, and have no appetite. So I'm not gaining enough weight. Which stresses me out.
Forget the mountain. I'm on a bridge that goes in circles, precariously over a disastrous cavern, with no end in sight.
I asked him to do a single thing, load the dishwasher, three days ago. He keeps telling me how tired he is. I am trying not to be insulted. But then he mentions it again. Talks about it when he's home from work. Complains when he gets up in the morning. "I'm tired." I'm sorry you're tired. I'm pregnant and have MS, work full time, and then have to take care of this house when I come home. You stayed home for 2 days this week and cleaned not a single inch of this apartment. We BOTH live here. Why is it only my job? I don't complain about being tired any more. I have been tired since February 2014. I've been exhausted beyond belief for the last three months. I can't sleep through the night because I have to get up three times to pee, and when I get up, my brain doesn't shut off. Baby hasn't even arrived yet and I'm pulling all-nighters while you push your huge comforter onto my side of the bed, where I already have limited real estate.
So you're tired? Climb the damn mountain. You'll know the real meaning of exhaustion then, too.
Sorry. I know he's doing his best. I can't fault him for everything. But it doesn't feel like a nice thing to do the dishes when I have to force you into doing them. I'd rather do it myself, when I know it will get done, and I know they will be clean, instead of having to redo them tomorrow when you're gone at yet ANOTHER camping trip with the scouts and I'm home alone. AGAIN. To clean and take care of the house. AGAIN. How the hell can I start nesting if you won't help me? I can't keep up.
I'm tired.
MSloan
Monday, October 26, 2015
ChatMS - 10/26/2015
Tonight's ChatMS was all about intimacy. I appreciate all of your support and participation, feel free to comment or copy/paste for your own blogs!
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Q1: On a scale of 1 to 5, how comfortable do you feel talking about Intimacy?
I'm married and generally very open. I rate at a 5!
Q2: Many people have different definitions of intimacy. What does it mean to you?
Intimacy to me means the ability to open up to a person in more than a casual or surface manner. It is not always sexual or romantic; I have few intimate relationships in my life, I am an open person but I am not easily trusting after one of my most precious relationships fell apart. It has new meaning to me now, especially in regards to MS, because it can and will impact every single relationship one has.
Q3: MS can have effects on Intimacy. Have you noticed changes since your diagnosis?
Yes - a few. I wrote a blog post about this earlier last week; it's difficult to feel welcomed to discuss my MS by people at work or church because they don't understand it. I had some more sexual dysfunctions as well, which I will address in later questions.
Q4: Have you and your partner discussed how MS can affect Intimacy?
Yes - we have had to have tough conversations about what this means for me, and how things might change in our relationship. We had to really buckle down and decide if we wanted to have children. It meant I had to breach the subject with a few friends - and I mean few. Many of the people I consider to be 'friends' still don't know I have MS - not that it matters, but I feel it's an important part of understanding why I make certain decisions.
Q5: MSers have more problems with ‘sex’ than a person who doesn’t have MS. Do you struggle with this?
Yes and no - I noticed a big drop in my libido shortly after being diagnosed, and when you are numb in areas from the waist down, it absolutely affects your ability to enjoy sex. I was depressed and very tired - it never felt like a good time, and this came right after a period where my libido was at an all-time high and our sex life was excellent; it was quite a setback.
Q6: ONLY if you are comfortable, what MS related symptoms have you noticed during times of physical intimacy?
The biggest one was an effect on my orgasms. For me, a climax affects my entire body - it isn't just localized in one 'place.' Instead, I can feel contraction and blood rushing all through my legs and torso, which enhances the experience. When I couldn't feel my leg or part of me pelvis, it really impacted my libido and my ability to enjoy sex when we had it. I was terrified that it would ruin our intimate time together forever. Thankfully, that ended. Now the only thing affecting our sex life is the weird experience of pregnancy.
I swear, I need to write a book - Pregnancy Sex: The Final Frontier.
Q7: How do you deal with the symptoms of MS and Intimacy? Have you talked to your neuro about it?
Just like anything in a relationship, communication is key. I have to be honest with my husband about do and do not feel ready for. I didn't discuss my sex drive with my neurologist then, but she was very perceptive and put me on anti-depressants. It was a lifesaver, though my Lexapro negatively impacted my climaxes as well for a while.
It's so refreshing to know that this is not an isolated problem, especially because it is likely addressed by some physicians as being a side effect of depression and nothing else. Don't let what your physician tells you be the only thing you learn - do research, ask others, be accountable for your healthcare!
Keep the conversation going! Participate weekly in #ChatMS on Twitter and FB!
MSloan
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Q1: On a scale of 1 to 5, how comfortable do you feel talking about Intimacy?
I'm married and generally very open. I rate at a 5!
Q2: Many people have different definitions of intimacy. What does it mean to you?
Intimacy to me means the ability to open up to a person in more than a casual or surface manner. It is not always sexual or romantic; I have few intimate relationships in my life, I am an open person but I am not easily trusting after one of my most precious relationships fell apart. It has new meaning to me now, especially in regards to MS, because it can and will impact every single relationship one has.
Q3: MS can have effects on Intimacy. Have you noticed changes since your diagnosis?
Yes - a few. I wrote a blog post about this earlier last week; it's difficult to feel welcomed to discuss my MS by people at work or church because they don't understand it. I had some more sexual dysfunctions as well, which I will address in later questions.
Q4: Have you and your partner discussed how MS can affect Intimacy?
Yes - we have had to have tough conversations about what this means for me, and how things might change in our relationship. We had to really buckle down and decide if we wanted to have children. It meant I had to breach the subject with a few friends - and I mean few. Many of the people I consider to be 'friends' still don't know I have MS - not that it matters, but I feel it's an important part of understanding why I make certain decisions.
Q5: MSers have more problems with ‘sex’ than a person who doesn’t have MS. Do you struggle with this?
Yes and no - I noticed a big drop in my libido shortly after being diagnosed, and when you are numb in areas from the waist down, it absolutely affects your ability to enjoy sex. I was depressed and very tired - it never felt like a good time, and this came right after a period where my libido was at an all-time high and our sex life was excellent; it was quite a setback.
Q6: ONLY if you are comfortable, what MS related symptoms have you noticed during times of physical intimacy?
The biggest one was an effect on my orgasms. For me, a climax affects my entire body - it isn't just localized in one 'place.' Instead, I can feel contraction and blood rushing all through my legs and torso, which enhances the experience. When I couldn't feel my leg or part of me pelvis, it really impacted my libido and my ability to enjoy sex when we had it. I was terrified that it would ruin our intimate time together forever. Thankfully, that ended. Now the only thing affecting our sex life is the weird experience of pregnancy.
I swear, I need to write a book - Pregnancy Sex: The Final Frontier.
Q7: How do you deal with the symptoms of MS and Intimacy? Have you talked to your neuro about it?
Just like anything in a relationship, communication is key. I have to be honest with my husband about do and do not feel ready for. I didn't discuss my sex drive with my neurologist then, but she was very perceptive and put me on anti-depressants. It was a lifesaver, though my Lexapro negatively impacted my climaxes as well for a while.
It's so refreshing to know that this is not an isolated problem, especially because it is likely addressed by some physicians as being a side effect of depression and nothing else. Don't let what your physician tells you be the only thing you learn - do research, ask others, be accountable for your healthcare!
Keep the conversation going! Participate weekly in #ChatMS on Twitter and FB!
MSloan
Wednesday, October 21, 2015
T Minus...
I'm giving it until Friday to see if things improve. T
here is no way this is just pregnancy; it feels too much like the first time, though less severe, which is a good thing I think. I can still walk, but I definitely feel more unsteady, despite the fact that my legs feel fairly normal. The numbness is moving around my feet throughout the day; at night, it's the worst, waking me up and making me panic. In the morning, after walking around, I feel ok and barely notice the numbness. By noon, it's starting to bother me again, ebbing and flowing.
Now it's about 8:15, I have had a very rough day at work, my crazy mother was set off again today and I'm getting hate mail, and my feet feel very funny.
Here's to hoping I can feel them by Friday. If I can't, I will have no choice but to call my neurologist.
And I knew when I went to bed on Monday that my toe felt funny.
MSloan
here is no way this is just pregnancy; it feels too much like the first time, though less severe, which is a good thing I think. I can still walk, but I definitely feel more unsteady, despite the fact that my legs feel fairly normal. The numbness is moving around my feet throughout the day; at night, it's the worst, waking me up and making me panic. In the morning, after walking around, I feel ok and barely notice the numbness. By noon, it's starting to bother me again, ebbing and flowing.
Now it's about 8:15, I have had a very rough day at work, my crazy mother was set off again today and I'm getting hate mail, and my feet feel very funny.
Here's to hoping I can feel them by Friday. If I can't, I will have no choice but to call my neurologist.
And I knew when I went to bed on Monday that my toe felt funny.
MSloan
Monday, October 19, 2015
Chat MS: October 19th, 2015
Hello, readers!
I have really enjoyed participating in Twitter's "Chat MS," happening on Monday nights at 7 EST. Because I am on the West coast, this is going to become increasingly difficult for me, as it begins while I am still at work and it was only by chance that I could participate this evening. So, to keep the conversation going, I am going to make it a weekly regiment to post the questions from Chat MS every Monday evening and welcome anyone to answer them in the comments. By talking about the issues, we can make progress!
Let's get started! This week's theme was Women with MS.
Q1: For approximately every 1 male, 3 females get diagnosed with MS. How does this make you feel?
I have always known that multiple sclerosis was more common in women, but it really does feel like a woman's disease. I have met many women with MS and only a handful of men, and that is likely because I am a healthcare provider. Though despite the higher numbers of women with the disease, it seems to be much more severe in men. No disease is truly sexually exclusive, but it would not surprise me if one day we only considered MS a women's ailment, as it is more likely we would find the genetic markers that make those few men more susceptible.
Q2: 86% of women are diagnosed with MS b/w the ages of 16 and 40. How old were you when you were diagnosed?
I was officially diagnosed with MS at 25, after I woke up one morning and my left leg was completely numb, and my right toes were as well. Though this major problem forced me to come into the emergency room and finally get an answer, I had been dealing with symptoms as early as December of 2009. I describe this time in my life as, 'when I got sick.' I went into remission for several years until the episode that brought me to the hospital, though in retrospect I had warnings something was happening in January with frequent MS hugs that I thought was persistent food poisoning; the leg went numb at the end of February.
Q3: When you were diagnosed, did you have children? If yes, what were the challenges you faced?
I did not - and I was terrified that it might me I couldn't have children. I am in a religious union with my husband, who comes from a large family and always wanted kids. I was always on the fence. But now, I had a choice to make. I had always intended that a year after I graduated with my doctorate, that I would secretly go off the pill and let nature take its course. That was no longer an option with my MS, since the medications I was taking to stay in remission were not pregnancy safe. We were very fortunate, however, that when I stopped the Gilenya I didn't relapse, and we got pregnant just outside of the 2 month safety window of stopping the drug. I am 13 weeks pregnant, and so far things are going well!
Q4: If you do not have children, do you wish to have any in the future? What are your fears being a mom with MS?
Can't take it back now :), but of course there are fears. I am afraid I will not have the energy to keep up with my children. I am afraid I will have a flare and my children will end up taking care of me before my time, and that has always been my reservation about having kids; I am in general a sick person, always have been, first as a child and now as an adult with this chronic illness. It is not impossible that I could wake up one day and have a major problem, or lose my ability to do something I used to take for granted - like walking, running, staying balanced, doing yoga, or even feeling my appendages. I worry I could lose my sight. I worry about my cognition. But I don't worry that my kids might have MS - it is not highly likely to be passed down genetically, and think of it this way: If I chose to adopt instead, and then had a child who had MS, wouldn't that be a kick in the ass? Shit happens.
Q5: Studies suggest that being pregnant with MS relieves symptoms. Has anyone noticed this?
Yes, though part of that might be the placebo effect of being pregnant as well, because that's common MS knowledge - - I have to admit though, pregnancy comes with its own set of strange issues. I can't sleep, and am very tired, but not "MS Tired." I can't feel my arms and my fingers are tingly, but that might be because of the carpal tunnel and pinched nerves in my back because my breasts have gotten enormous. I have restless leg syndrome, but it doesn't feel like the weirdness of MS. Time will tell, I guess.
Q6: Women with MS say symptoms get worse around their periods. What symptoms worsen for you during that time of the month?
Hell. Yes. I hate that some people really don't think there's a connection. These are the same people who don't believe there is a connection between menstruation and migraines. STUPID. My first major flare happened in the middle of my period. To this day, my biggest symptoms that hit around my period are severe fatigue and nausea. Oh, the nausea. No one believed me that the nausea was because of my MS, but I never felt nausea like that until 2010. I was certain something was terribly wrong with me and no one listened. Nausea is not just a symptom because you get dizzy - I am certain this is tied to the same phenomenon that causes MS Hugs. Which are poorly named.
Q7: Do you take any meds to help you deal with symptoms during your menstrual cycle?
Dude. Chocolate. And Excedrin. I need the tylenol/aspirin/caffeine mix. But other than that, it's a wait it out system, and I pray I don't have a flare. I hadn't because I was on the Gilenya, but once baby comes, I am scared of what might happen.
Q8: Women say symptoms like fatigue and bladder issues feel worse during menopause. Have you experienced this?
Whoa there, nelly. I'm only 27. Let's take childbirth first, ok?
Alright, everyone! Your turn! Love to all, please comment, keep the conversation going - feel free to copy/paste the questions to your own blog and keep spreading the word!
Love all - Margo :)
I have really enjoyed participating in Twitter's "Chat MS," happening on Monday nights at 7 EST. Because I am on the West coast, this is going to become increasingly difficult for me, as it begins while I am still at work and it was only by chance that I could participate this evening. So, to keep the conversation going, I am going to make it a weekly regiment to post the questions from Chat MS every Monday evening and welcome anyone to answer them in the comments. By talking about the issues, we can make progress!
Let's get started! This week's theme was Women with MS.
Q1: For approximately every 1 male, 3 females get diagnosed with MS. How does this make you feel?
I have always known that multiple sclerosis was more common in women, but it really does feel like a woman's disease. I have met many women with MS and only a handful of men, and that is likely because I am a healthcare provider. Though despite the higher numbers of women with the disease, it seems to be much more severe in men. No disease is truly sexually exclusive, but it would not surprise me if one day we only considered MS a women's ailment, as it is more likely we would find the genetic markers that make those few men more susceptible.
Q2: 86% of women are diagnosed with MS b/w the ages of 16 and 40. How old were you when you were diagnosed?
I was officially diagnosed with MS at 25, after I woke up one morning and my left leg was completely numb, and my right toes were as well. Though this major problem forced me to come into the emergency room and finally get an answer, I had been dealing with symptoms as early as December of 2009. I describe this time in my life as, 'when I got sick.' I went into remission for several years until the episode that brought me to the hospital, though in retrospect I had warnings something was happening in January with frequent MS hugs that I thought was persistent food poisoning; the leg went numb at the end of February.
Q3: When you were diagnosed, did you have children? If yes, what were the challenges you faced?
I did not - and I was terrified that it might me I couldn't have children. I am in a religious union with my husband, who comes from a large family and always wanted kids. I was always on the fence. But now, I had a choice to make. I had always intended that a year after I graduated with my doctorate, that I would secretly go off the pill and let nature take its course. That was no longer an option with my MS, since the medications I was taking to stay in remission were not pregnancy safe. We were very fortunate, however, that when I stopped the Gilenya I didn't relapse, and we got pregnant just outside of the 2 month safety window of stopping the drug. I am 13 weeks pregnant, and so far things are going well!
Q4: If you do not have children, do you wish to have any in the future? What are your fears being a mom with MS?
Can't take it back now :), but of course there are fears. I am afraid I will not have the energy to keep up with my children. I am afraid I will have a flare and my children will end up taking care of me before my time, and that has always been my reservation about having kids; I am in general a sick person, always have been, first as a child and now as an adult with this chronic illness. It is not impossible that I could wake up one day and have a major problem, or lose my ability to do something I used to take for granted - like walking, running, staying balanced, doing yoga, or even feeling my appendages. I worry I could lose my sight. I worry about my cognition. But I don't worry that my kids might have MS - it is not highly likely to be passed down genetically, and think of it this way: If I chose to adopt instead, and then had a child who had MS, wouldn't that be a kick in the ass? Shit happens.
Q5: Studies suggest that being pregnant with MS relieves symptoms. Has anyone noticed this?
Yes, though part of that might be the placebo effect of being pregnant as well, because that's common MS knowledge - - I have to admit though, pregnancy comes with its own set of strange issues. I can't sleep, and am very tired, but not "MS Tired." I can't feel my arms and my fingers are tingly, but that might be because of the carpal tunnel and pinched nerves in my back because my breasts have gotten enormous. I have restless leg syndrome, but it doesn't feel like the weirdness of MS. Time will tell, I guess.
Q6: Women with MS say symptoms get worse around their periods. What symptoms worsen for you during that time of the month?
Hell. Yes. I hate that some people really don't think there's a connection. These are the same people who don't believe there is a connection between menstruation and migraines. STUPID. My first major flare happened in the middle of my period. To this day, my biggest symptoms that hit around my period are severe fatigue and nausea. Oh, the nausea. No one believed me that the nausea was because of my MS, but I never felt nausea like that until 2010. I was certain something was terribly wrong with me and no one listened. Nausea is not just a symptom because you get dizzy - I am certain this is tied to the same phenomenon that causes MS Hugs. Which are poorly named.
Q7: Do you take any meds to help you deal with symptoms during your menstrual cycle?
Dude. Chocolate. And Excedrin. I need the tylenol/aspirin/caffeine mix. But other than that, it's a wait it out system, and I pray I don't have a flare. I hadn't because I was on the Gilenya, but once baby comes, I am scared of what might happen.
Q8: Women say symptoms like fatigue and bladder issues feel worse during menopause. Have you experienced this?
Whoa there, nelly. I'm only 27. Let's take childbirth first, ok?
Alright, everyone! Your turn! Love to all, please comment, keep the conversation going - feel free to copy/paste the questions to your own blog and keep spreading the word!
Love all - Margo :)
Monday, October 12, 2015
#ChatMS
I just participated in my first Twitter #ChatMS - it was excellent! I feel so much more connected to the blogosphere/intersphere of people who have MS across the country and around the world. It's so great getting to know all of you as we share in this journey together.
I haven't had much reason to post lately because my MS is essentially on hiatus while I go through pregnancy - - SO why not post things about pregnancy? WHY NOT, I SAY!
So the next post will be the progress on Squishy thus far. Love to all! And thank you for participating, you make me brave!
Miss Sloan :)
twitter.com/revelwoman
I haven't had much reason to post lately because my MS is essentially on hiatus while I go through pregnancy - - SO why not post things about pregnancy? WHY NOT, I SAY!
So the next post will be the progress on Squishy thus far. Love to all! And thank you for participating, you make me brave!
Miss Sloan :)
twitter.com/revelwoman
Friday, June 5, 2015
A Changing World
Hello again, all. I hope this finds you all well!
In a blog like this, one that follows my medical progress, I don't find it necessary to continuously post when nothing exciting is happening. But, since I do have so much experience with the medical aspect of the disease, I should contribute when I can.
I recently had a string of blood tests done to check in on my overall health. Knock on wood, unlike a few months ago, I do not have constant stomach pain which might just mean the "MS hug hell" that I was experiencing daily might be finally subsiding. I know a surgeon just couldn't WAIT to rip out my gall bladder for being a few points below par, but as there were no gallstones, I didn't understand why he would want to remove it. He said there is no cure or treatment for the problem that he found - but if that really were true, why did a small diet change make such a big difference?
Hmm, my brain tells me, hmm indeed!
The blood tests showed that my cholesterol was absolutely through the ROOF and my iron was through the FLOOR. Aye-yay-yay. Tons of fun. I believe that my cholesterol shot up with my anti-depressant; my doctor told me that hyperlipidemia only occurs in about 1% of people - I wanted to tell her, "Come on, lady, I have a disease only 2.5 million people worldwide have, and you think I'm concerned about your measly statistical 1%? Clearly with my activity level, body type, genetics and diet I should not have a cholesterol reading of 244!"
The point I'm making is: I wish my doctors were worried about my symptoms like I was. When Kaiser kicks back a test result to my email address and I check it, and it clearly is shown as an abnormal finding, why don't you address that with me? Why not tell me why you are NOT concerned about it, for the love of Pete? I don't know if my doctor knows that I can see all those results before she does, but it makes me crazy.
As a medical provider, I do whatever I can to relieve my patient's concerns by expressing to them everything I am looking at and why, so if I find something abnormal, I can tell them why it might be worth looking out for or worth ignoring. I am a firm believer that people are in charge of their OWN health care - and therefore have to be informed enough to know what's going on where. I met someone recently who has had symptoms of chronic Lyme Disease for almost 20 years (and yes, it does exist, morons out there who think it doesn't) and never understood why everything sounded crazy loud all of a sudden. No one even bothered trying to explain what the disease might do to her over time and why.
I mean, I know I can call my neurologist for answers if I really get scared, but doctors are not omnipotent. Really, they aren't. Every doctor is different. You know what they call the last guy in the class in graduate school? Doctor. Idiots can get through credentialing, too. I feel like I shouldn't have to pull teeth to get answers and comfort. My PA at the neurologist's office as well as the head nurse gave me so much more than the doctor ever did - it's ludicrous how hard it can be to understand our own conditions.
The truth is, the future of MS scares the pants off me. I don't know what to expect when I wake up in the morning. Am I going to be dizzy today? Am I going to be able to taste? Will I be able to feel all my appendages, or will the third toe on my left foot be numb again today? Hard to say, because it changes all the time.
I know that it is as likely as not that I will never have a major flare again. It's a great dream. But I also know that my luck is just not that good when it comes to my health (bummer!) and I often learn things through my own health experiences that allow me to understand and be a more empathetic person in general. It is my own form of service.
With that in mind, I am going to post a great video about service - and a woman who has had MS for some time and how she relies on those around her to do the simple task of getting her in bed every night.
https://www.lds.org/media-library/video/2015-05-003-lift?lang=eng
Love to all -
In a blog like this, one that follows my medical progress, I don't find it necessary to continuously post when nothing exciting is happening. But, since I do have so much experience with the medical aspect of the disease, I should contribute when I can.
I recently had a string of blood tests done to check in on my overall health. Knock on wood, unlike a few months ago, I do not have constant stomach pain which might just mean the "MS hug hell" that I was experiencing daily might be finally subsiding. I know a surgeon just couldn't WAIT to rip out my gall bladder for being a few points below par, but as there were no gallstones, I didn't understand why he would want to remove it. He said there is no cure or treatment for the problem that he found - but if that really were true, why did a small diet change make such a big difference?
Hmm, my brain tells me, hmm indeed!
The blood tests showed that my cholesterol was absolutely through the ROOF and my iron was through the FLOOR. Aye-yay-yay. Tons of fun. I believe that my cholesterol shot up with my anti-depressant; my doctor told me that hyperlipidemia only occurs in about 1% of people - I wanted to tell her, "Come on, lady, I have a disease only 2.5 million people worldwide have, and you think I'm concerned about your measly statistical 1%? Clearly with my activity level, body type, genetics and diet I should not have a cholesterol reading of 244!"
The point I'm making is: I wish my doctors were worried about my symptoms like I was. When Kaiser kicks back a test result to my email address and I check it, and it clearly is shown as an abnormal finding, why don't you address that with me? Why not tell me why you are NOT concerned about it, for the love of Pete? I don't know if my doctor knows that I can see all those results before she does, but it makes me crazy.
As a medical provider, I do whatever I can to relieve my patient's concerns by expressing to them everything I am looking at and why, so if I find something abnormal, I can tell them why it might be worth looking out for or worth ignoring. I am a firm believer that people are in charge of their OWN health care - and therefore have to be informed enough to know what's going on where. I met someone recently who has had symptoms of chronic Lyme Disease for almost 20 years (and yes, it does exist, morons out there who think it doesn't) and never understood why everything sounded crazy loud all of a sudden. No one even bothered trying to explain what the disease might do to her over time and why.
I mean, I know I can call my neurologist for answers if I really get scared, but doctors are not omnipotent. Really, they aren't. Every doctor is different. You know what they call the last guy in the class in graduate school? Doctor. Idiots can get through credentialing, too. I feel like I shouldn't have to pull teeth to get answers and comfort. My PA at the neurologist's office as well as the head nurse gave me so much more than the doctor ever did - it's ludicrous how hard it can be to understand our own conditions.
The truth is, the future of MS scares the pants off me. I don't know what to expect when I wake up in the morning. Am I going to be dizzy today? Am I going to be able to taste? Will I be able to feel all my appendages, or will the third toe on my left foot be numb again today? Hard to say, because it changes all the time.
I know that it is as likely as not that I will never have a major flare again. It's a great dream. But I also know that my luck is just not that good when it comes to my health (bummer!) and I often learn things through my own health experiences that allow me to understand and be a more empathetic person in general. It is my own form of service.
With that in mind, I am going to post a great video about service - and a woman who has had MS for some time and how she relies on those around her to do the simple task of getting her in bed every night.
https://www.lds.org/media-library/video/2015-05-003-lift?lang=eng
Love to all -
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