Good morning to all, and Happy 2018!
Well, no news is good news for the most part. I haven't had too many things to talk about in regards to the MS department since my last post, which should be a good sign. The unfortunate news is that now - something else has gone wrong!
Besides the classic MS symptoms that come and go (my L'hermitte's sign, the cramping toes, the fuzzy brain and fatigue), I have been generally well. That is, until mid-December, when I had terrible stomach cramping. My stomach would bellow and growl so loudly that my coworker could hear them across the office - I was certain I had some kind of obstruction, if it wasn't for the fact that at least my bowels were moving. I have always felt a sneaking suspicion that I had some kind of inflammatory bowel condition (as I read they commonly accompany MS), so I figured it was something that would have to be addressed eventually.
At the same time, my husband thought the mole on my back looked suspicious (I disagreed...it has been there my whole life!) But to placate him, I made an appointment for a general physical. I thought I would still be symptomatic with stomach pain by the time I came in - but it had subsided about four days prior to my appointment. I asked about getting my foot looked at to finally get my bunion removed, got a flu shot, and asked for my birth control and anti-depressant prescriptions to be refilled. All in all, it was a pretty uneventful visit the week before Christmas. She ordered me basic labwork and I went on my merry way.
When I went in the next day for bloodwork, I didn't expect anything to pop up or look funny. I always have slightly (as in, a few points) strange labs for a couple of figures, but nothing that has ever raised a red flag. But this time I noticed that my platelet count (which normally hovers around 400-425, a little high but nothing big) had jumped to 570. Whoa! I felt fine, so I thought maybe it was just leftover from a stomach bug or whatever was bothering me a few weeks before. She also noticed that my cholesterol numbers were all over the place, and my triglycerides were high. Okay, okay, I know I haven't been very good at exercising lately. But could these things be tied together?
I largely ignored the labs, and my doctors told me they wanted to retest in 3 months but weren't terribly concerned. My neurologist was unhappy with my Vitamin D levels (granted, they were very low) so now I had to take more Vit D. Easy enough.
I remembered reading that MS could give you issues with your bladder, and I had a history of UTIs that had no symptoms. So I did an at-home AZO stick test, and found that I had a high level of white blood cells in my urine. "That's odd," I thought, though the nitrate stick was fine, so I couldn't have an active UTI. I told my doctor that I wanted her to order a full urinalysis and I would take it when I got back from my business trip in a week.
Well, here we were on said business trip - in Las Vegas. Which means I was not at home. My 20-month-old daughter was roaming the streets with my husband while I was in classes, and I noticed on the second day we were there that I had to go to the bathroom after every class.
UH OH, says every woman I know.
I drank water and drank water some more. I paid close attention to every sensation - dammit, I feel like I have to pee again. Oh no, now it's starting to hurt. I was hating myself for even thinking about having a UTI, because now I was certain I had cursed myself, and I hadn't had one in years! I moaned to my husband and we spent a lot of time walking back and forth to the Walgreens across the street. They should have given me a job, I was in there so much! I loaded up on Pyridium (the 'numbing' stuff that turns your pee bright orange) and cranberry juice, Cystex, and AZO strips. By 10 PM, I was passing small red blood clots. And that's when I had the thought - "You know, this isn't a burning...it's a soreness. And now I'm passing blood clots. It doesn't smell funny. Could I have....Kidney Stones?!"
To be continued.....
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Friday, January 19, 2018
Thursday, March 10, 2016
ChatMS - 3/7/2016
Good evening, all!
I am finally getting around to typing up yesterday's ChatMS - it's been a busy day!
I've been supporting MS Awareness Month on my facebook page, posting a fact every day. Don't know if that will continue as regularly, but I want to educate the people around me. Not just to benefit their perception of my experience, but so they understand that not enough awareness = not enough progress. We make such a big deal over things like breast cancer (which is absolutely worth the fuss, I'm not saying it's not!) but MS is so invisible, it doesn't get the funding it requires to make real progress in treatment and cure.
It was the celebration of ChatMS' 1st year in existence! Please feel free to copy/paste the questions into your own blog and remember to keep the conversation going!
Q1: It’s been one entire year since#ChatMS has launched. Can you believe it or what?
Woo, go #ChatMS!
Like I said before ... I just kinda stumbled across it on twitter on a day that I was home early. I had recently deactivated my FB account and the people I followed were big #ChatMS participants!
You know, I really don't.... I know one of the first ones was "for the ladies," and the very first one I participated in was run by a member and not the usual leaders. I remember answering all questions fervently; I think part of it might have been about reactions from others about potential disability.
I love #ChatMS and how it allows me to connect with others who have this disease. We have it, it does not have us. But it's comforting to not feel alone - which is common when none of your friends have any clue what this is really like.
Q6: We brought wine to the anniversary party. If comfortable, share a selfie showing how you’re celebrating!
(Not applicable for post-chat commentary)
Q7 - What can we do to improve#ChatMS
I love seeing how every week is different - I'd like to find out more about people who have had unsuccessful treatments and especially "failed" steroids.
Q8 - have you been able to make connections and build a stronger support system thanks to#ChatMS?
Absolutely - and it gives me great blogging material!! :)
Q9 - What can we do to get others to join future#ChatMS sessions so you can gain more insights?
Maybe have more than one per week, in different time zones. Those of us out here on the west coast can't participate if we're working!
That's all, folks! Keep the conversation going! :)
MSloan
I am finally getting around to typing up yesterday's ChatMS - it's been a busy day!
I've been supporting MS Awareness Month on my facebook page, posting a fact every day. Don't know if that will continue as regularly, but I want to educate the people around me. Not just to benefit their perception of my experience, but so they understand that not enough awareness = not enough progress. We make such a big deal over things like breast cancer (which is absolutely worth the fuss, I'm not saying it's not!) but MS is so invisible, it doesn't get the funding it requires to make real progress in treatment and cure.
It was the celebration of ChatMS' 1st year in existence! Please feel free to copy/paste the questions into your own blog and remember to keep the conversation going!
Q1: It’s been one entire year since
Woo, go #ChatMS!
Q2: How long have you been participating in #ChatMS?
I've been participating for about six months! I came across it one day when I just happened to get home from work early. In California, the chat starts at 4 PM.
I've been participating for about six months! I came across it one day when I just happened to get home from work early. In California, the chat starts at 4 PM.
Q3: How did you hear about #ChatMS and what made you join?
Like I said before ... I just kinda stumbled across it on twitter on a day that I was home early. I had recently deactivated my FB account and the people I followed were big #ChatMS participants!
Q4: Do you remember what our first (or your first) #ChatMS was about?
You know, I really don't.... I know one of the first ones was "for the ladies," and the very first one I participated in was run by a member and not the usual leaders. I remember answering all questions fervently; I think part of it might have been about reactions from others about potential disability.
Q5: What does our weekly chat about #MultipleSclerosis mean to you?
I love #ChatMS and how it allows me to connect with others who have this disease. We have it, it does not have us. But it's comforting to not feel alone - which is common when none of your friends have any clue what this is really like.
Q6: We brought wine to the anniversary party. If comfortable, share a selfie showing how you’re celebrating!
(Not applicable for post-chat commentary)
Q7 - What can we do to improve
I love seeing how every week is different - I'd like to find out more about people who have had unsuccessful treatments and especially "failed" steroids.
Q8 - have you been able to make connections and build a stronger support system thanks to
Absolutely - and it gives me great blogging material!! :)
Q9 - What can we do to get others to join future
Maybe have more than one per week, in different time zones. Those of us out here on the west coast can't participate if we're working!
That's all, folks! Keep the conversation going! :)
MSloan
Friday, March 4, 2016
Looking to the future ...
I'm wondering what to do after this baby arrives.
Should I breastfeed for 3 weeks? 4? Should I get an MRI and make sure I'm not still having an active lesion from the big Optic Neuritis scare in December, that still has not resolved? Should I get steroid treatment this far away from the initial injury and hope it improves things?
Where do we go now? (Cue Guns & Roses)
I'm asking for advice - moms with MS, how long did you wait to get treatment for your MS after you gave birth? Anyone have flares while pregnant? What did your neurologist recommend?
Thanks, all!
MSloan
Should I breastfeed for 3 weeks? 4? Should I get an MRI and make sure I'm not still having an active lesion from the big Optic Neuritis scare in December, that still has not resolved? Should I get steroid treatment this far away from the initial injury and hope it improves things?
Where do we go now? (Cue Guns & Roses)
I'm asking for advice - moms with MS, how long did you wait to get treatment for your MS after you gave birth? Anyone have flares while pregnant? What did your neurologist recommend?
Thanks, all!
MSloan
Monday, February 29, 2016
ChatMS: 2/29/2016
Happy Leap Day!
Q1 – March is MS Awareness month. What will you be doing to spread Multiple Sclerosis awareness?
I have signed up for Walk MS this coming April (though my due date is just three days later, yikes!) and I intend to 'come out' to some more friends who don't know about my diagnosis. Like my depression, I gather many will be surprised, as this is just as invisible. If we don't let the people we love know our struggles, how can we hope to gain widespread acceptance and understanding?
Q2 - What have you done in the past to raise Multiple Sclerosis awareness?
This blog is my best way to raise MS Awareness - and I have volunteered in the past for the local Walk MS event!
Q3 – Do any landmarks or cities near you “Go Orange” (or red) for MS Awareness Month?
Rats - no. But I certainly will be going orange this month with my brand-new, sparkly orange nail polish!! :)
Q4 – What do you think is the best media to spread MS awareness?
Face-to-face, absolutely. I have spoken with many patients about my MS and been thanked for opening up about my struggles with them. Mind you, I don't ever discuss it with them as "poor me, look what I'm going through," but I do bring it up if they say they are alone with their invisible illness. When we battle our illnesses together, we become a team, and they trust me more as a provider. I wish I could connect with my own doctors the way I connect with my patients, because then I would really feel like I am being listened to.
On the other hand - digital medial makes widespread effect possible, so I can't complain about good 'ol FB, twitter, and blogging, of course!
Q5 – When asked, how do you describe Multiple Sclerosis?
I say that my brain likes to eat itself! I talk a little bit about the myelin sheath around neurons, and how MS is a condition that breaks down that myelin. When scar tissue forms, or sclerotic tissue, it creates a short circuit in the nerve fiber. So, literally, multiple areas of sclerotic tissue, or Multiple Sclerosis. I say that it affects me in many ways, from debilitating fatigue to numbness and tingling, and that at 20 weeks pregnant, my MS half-blinding my right eye and it is still recovering. I mention that everyone's MS is different, however, and that while there are some who are not as effected as I am, there are just as many who are much worse off.
Q6 – What items can be frustrating when raising awareness?
"But you look fine, so it can't be that bad."
You have no idea what this actually feels like. I don't want to be one of those people who says, "I carry my MS with me every single day like a burden on my back," because honestly, some days are simply not like that at all. On my great days, of which I usually have many in a row, I forget about the MS and just live. It's an excellent feeling. But when I am feeling shitty, I feel REALLY shitty, and I have to keep face about it because I can't be 'sick' all the time, even when I feel like it. I've felt intermittently sick since late 2009. Before that, I was a generally sick kid, always getting sinus infections and having ear problems. I'm really ready to not be sick anymore.
The other thing is the unspoken truth of why issues like MS stay stagnant - if it doesn't apply to you, you're less likely to give a damn about it. When I start telling people I know about my disease, I'm sure they'll start to care. But you have to have a reason to get behind something. People usually have a reason to get really 'into' wearing pink for breast cancer. I want more people to find reasons to wear orange!
Q7 – What would you consider a successful MS Awareness effort?
Getting anyone that I actually know, in my real life, to participate in MS events or look at MS research. And not compare the different people they know to me; have a healthy respect that everyone's case is different. I can't tell you how sickening it is to be told, "Well, my friend so-and-so has had MS for forty years and she is just fine," I could just as easily retort that another friend of mine who is my age has been in a wheelchair for five years because of her MS. Everyone's case is different. I know you think you're helping when you only want to focus on the possibility that my pregnancy could make my MS disappear, but as that has been the opposite case, I'd prefer if you just shut up and listened to my struggle instead of trying to fix it to make yourself feel better.
Q8 – Where do you direct people if they ask for more information on Multiple Sclerosis?
I'll admit, I wish I did more to spread awareness in this respect. But I have so rarely been asked for 'more information,' this feels like an empty question.
That's all, folks!! Have a great week -
MSloan
Q1 – March is MS Awareness month. What will you be doing to spread Multiple Sclerosis awareness?
I have signed up for Walk MS this coming April (though my due date is just three days later, yikes!) and I intend to 'come out' to some more friends who don't know about my diagnosis. Like my depression, I gather many will be surprised, as this is just as invisible. If we don't let the people we love know our struggles, how can we hope to gain widespread acceptance and understanding?
Q2 - What have you done in the past to raise Multiple Sclerosis awareness?
This blog is my best way to raise MS Awareness - and I have volunteered in the past for the local Walk MS event!
Q3 – Do any landmarks or cities near you “Go Orange” (or red) for MS Awareness Month?
Rats - no. But I certainly will be going orange this month with my brand-new, sparkly orange nail polish!! :)
Q4 – What do you think is the best media to spread MS awareness?
Face-to-face, absolutely. I have spoken with many patients about my MS and been thanked for opening up about my struggles with them. Mind you, I don't ever discuss it with them as "poor me, look what I'm going through," but I do bring it up if they say they are alone with their invisible illness. When we battle our illnesses together, we become a team, and they trust me more as a provider. I wish I could connect with my own doctors the way I connect with my patients, because then I would really feel like I am being listened to.
On the other hand - digital medial makes widespread effect possible, so I can't complain about good 'ol FB, twitter, and blogging, of course!
Q5 – When asked, how do you describe Multiple Sclerosis?
I say that my brain likes to eat itself! I talk a little bit about the myelin sheath around neurons, and how MS is a condition that breaks down that myelin. When scar tissue forms, or sclerotic tissue, it creates a short circuit in the nerve fiber. So, literally, multiple areas of sclerotic tissue, or Multiple Sclerosis. I say that it affects me in many ways, from debilitating fatigue to numbness and tingling, and that at 20 weeks pregnant, my MS half-blinding my right eye and it is still recovering. I mention that everyone's MS is different, however, and that while there are some who are not as effected as I am, there are just as many who are much worse off.
Q6 – What items can be frustrating when raising awareness?
"But you look fine, so it can't be that bad."
You have no idea what this actually feels like. I don't want to be one of those people who says, "I carry my MS with me every single day like a burden on my back," because honestly, some days are simply not like that at all. On my great days, of which I usually have many in a row, I forget about the MS and just live. It's an excellent feeling. But when I am feeling shitty, I feel REALLY shitty, and I have to keep face about it because I can't be 'sick' all the time, even when I feel like it. I've felt intermittently sick since late 2009. Before that, I was a generally sick kid, always getting sinus infections and having ear problems. I'm really ready to not be sick anymore.
The other thing is the unspoken truth of why issues like MS stay stagnant - if it doesn't apply to you, you're less likely to give a damn about it. When I start telling people I know about my disease, I'm sure they'll start to care. But you have to have a reason to get behind something. People usually have a reason to get really 'into' wearing pink for breast cancer. I want more people to find reasons to wear orange!
Q7 – What would you consider a successful MS Awareness effort?
Getting anyone that I actually know, in my real life, to participate in MS events or look at MS research. And not compare the different people they know to me; have a healthy respect that everyone's case is different. I can't tell you how sickening it is to be told, "Well, my friend so-and-so has had MS for forty years and she is just fine," I could just as easily retort that another friend of mine who is my age has been in a wheelchair for five years because of her MS. Everyone's case is different. I know you think you're helping when you only want to focus on the possibility that my pregnancy could make my MS disappear, but as that has been the opposite case, I'd prefer if you just shut up and listened to my struggle instead of trying to fix it to make yourself feel better.
Q8 – Where do you direct people if they ask for more information on Multiple Sclerosis?
I'll admit, I wish I did more to spread awareness in this respect. But I have so rarely been asked for 'more information,' this feels like an empty question.
That's all, folks!! Have a great week -
MSloan
Monday, February 22, 2016
ChatMS - 2/22/2016
Tonight's ChatMS on Twitter was in a different format - forgive me if I forgot some questions or missed some, it was not very clear what questions there were! (note to the moderators: keep this in mind for those of us who participate after hours and want to follow the conversations :) )
Enjoy away, and feel free to copy/paste to your own blog! Sorry I forgot last week's, I was so pumped because I actually got to participate in real time that I never went back to put them in blog form!
Q1) As an ice-breaker Q, what is your name and what is your most frustrating symptom?
I don't use my real name on this blog :) But let's say my name is Margo, and by far the most frustrating symptoms I've had have been nausea and MS hugs, both of which I thankfully have not had consistently in some time. On the plus side, it made morning sickness really easy to deal with because I had so many anti-nausea tricks!
Q2) How does everyone handle fatigue?
I have to learn to say 'no.' I'm not very good at this, haha! But when I go out with my husband, either for a walk or a day trip somewhere, I have to know when it's time to go. If I overdo it one day, I won't be able to function the next!
Q3) Is anyone on a particular diet? Have you noticed any differences since cutting out certain foods?
HA! This is one of those things I should be doing, but am not. I know that certain foods trigger my acid reflux, like certain types of chocolate, and citrus fruits. But as for real MS symptoms, not really.
Q4) What type of exercise is easiest and benefits your MS the most?
Yoga, yoga, yoga, yoga. Yoga all the way. Not too strenuous for my body and when I do it, I don't feel like I'm going to trip and fall on someone because my feet go numb when I move around too much.
Q5) Has anyone experienced numbness in the stomach & u don't feel when u have to urinate?
Dear Lord, no, but I certainly hope I never have this one.
Q6) Do you guys have set sleep schedules? Or just try to sleep whenever?
Just try to sleep whenever. Insomnia is a huge struggle for me - now that I'm 7 months pregnant it's even worse!! Oy vey.
Q7) Does anyone else feel like they have to REALLY concentrate and focus in order for action to happen in the bathroom?
You mean I'm not the only one??! I have struggled with constipation for so long I can't even tell you. Pregnancy again makes this one all the more enjoyable. Most pregnant women don't struggle with this until at least the second trimester and mine has been on a totally different level since about 5 weeks in. What was already bad was made monumentally worse. Let's just say I should invest in Preparation H and leave it at that. #TMI #Sorry
Q8) For those of you that deal with headaches frequently, where would you say it hurts? And what do you do to help?
I used to get headaches daily. They usually hit around 3 PM or later, and were tension related. I felt them on both sides of my head, a dull ache. When they would get really bad, they would last for days on end - just a dull pain, about a 4 or a 5, but nothing would stop them. After I got pregnant I got an entirely different type of headache - these would hit in the morning, and would hurt on the back of my head as well as the sides. I never had a headache that wasn't just a continuation of the day before that started before 11 AM - but these were like clockwork. Knock on wood, hard, I have not had a headache at all since about my 4th month of pregnancy. I do not look forward to my daily ones returning, and hope it's one of those things that will stay away.
I do get migraines, once in a blue moon. They give me auras and tend to hurt on one side of the face. Optic Neuritis headaches are the absolute worse, they hurt behind the eyes, typically on my right side, and not a fucking thing even touches it - not aspirin, not tylenol, not aleve or ibuprofen, the four pain killer groups. Just wait it out and pray you can see afterwards. This last bout of ON, left me with only partial vision in the right eye, 12 weeks and still no improvement, but it didn't hurt. I think I prefer the blindness to the pain, honestly.
Q9) If you could tell your friends/family one thing about MS and they would 100% believe that one thing. What would it be?
My MS is not my whole world. I talk about it because it makes me feel less alone. I wish you would ask me more questions so that it wasn't so much of a mystery, and you could understand my perspective a little better.
I'm not faking, and I don't want your pity, or even your attention. But acknowledgment that this is hard would be very validating.
Q10) Does anyone else feel out of place in a group setting trying to keep up with conversation and making sense when you reply?
I have not had this kind of immediate brain fog in a group, but I've had it when writing, and I have had to counsel patients with it. I tell them to say "Wait a minute, buffering," while they speak, so that they don't get the inevitable "What?" response. I had a patient who brought in her husband to have his hearing tested because she was certain he wasn't hearing her - he actually had perfect hearing, he said "what" all the time because her MS caused her to frequently not make sense, and he didn't know how else to tell her so.
Q11) Fill in the blank... I have MS, but MS will never stop me from __________!
Creating, in one medium or another!
Q12) What's that 1 medication/Vitamin that you believe helps you/your MS the best?
I loved my Gilenya. As far as I could tell, I had no side effects, and my MS was kept at bay, give or take a teeny bit of toe numbness on particularly stressful days. It did the trick for me, as long as I could keep my stress level low. I would like to go back on it after my baby is born, if my neurologist is willing to work with me.
Q13) Does anyone get that feel like you're walking on glass feeling? What helps it?
I only got this a few times with my previous numbness, and it was very disorienting. Like your foot "waking up," the worst part of it. But all the time. I really didn't focus on it because the most disconcerting part was when I walked a few yards, my legs from the knee down would go numb and I would get a spring-like feeling with every step. So glass-feet is a bit foreign to me, but I know it's real to a lot of MSers.
That's it for this week, folks!! Tune in next time!
Love, MSloan
Enjoy away, and feel free to copy/paste to your own blog! Sorry I forgot last week's, I was so pumped because I actually got to participate in real time that I never went back to put them in blog form!
Q1) As an ice-breaker Q, what is your name and what is your most frustrating symptom?
I don't use my real name on this blog :) But let's say my name is Margo, and by far the most frustrating symptoms I've had have been nausea and MS hugs, both of which I thankfully have not had consistently in some time. On the plus side, it made morning sickness really easy to deal with because I had so many anti-nausea tricks!
Q2) How does everyone handle fatigue?
I have to learn to say 'no.' I'm not very good at this, haha! But when I go out with my husband, either for a walk or a day trip somewhere, I have to know when it's time to go. If I overdo it one day, I won't be able to function the next!
Q3) Is anyone on a particular diet? Have you noticed any differences since cutting out certain foods?
HA! This is one of those things I should be doing, but am not. I know that certain foods trigger my acid reflux, like certain types of chocolate, and citrus fruits. But as for real MS symptoms, not really.
Q4) What type of exercise is easiest and benefits your MS the most?
Yoga, yoga, yoga, yoga. Yoga all the way. Not too strenuous for my body and when I do it, I don't feel like I'm going to trip and fall on someone because my feet go numb when I move around too much.
Q5) Has anyone experienced numbness in the stomach & u don't feel when u have to urinate?
Dear Lord, no, but I certainly hope I never have this one.
Q6) Do you guys have set sleep schedules? Or just try to sleep whenever?
Just try to sleep whenever. Insomnia is a huge struggle for me - now that I'm 7 months pregnant it's even worse!! Oy vey.
Q7) Does anyone else feel like they have to REALLY concentrate and focus in order for action to happen in the bathroom?
You mean I'm not the only one??! I have struggled with constipation for so long I can't even tell you. Pregnancy again makes this one all the more enjoyable. Most pregnant women don't struggle with this until at least the second trimester and mine has been on a totally different level since about 5 weeks in. What was already bad was made monumentally worse. Let's just say I should invest in Preparation H and leave it at that. #TMI #Sorry
Q8) For those of you that deal with headaches frequently, where would you say it hurts? And what do you do to help?
I used to get headaches daily. They usually hit around 3 PM or later, and were tension related. I felt them on both sides of my head, a dull ache. When they would get really bad, they would last for days on end - just a dull pain, about a 4 or a 5, but nothing would stop them. After I got pregnant I got an entirely different type of headache - these would hit in the morning, and would hurt on the back of my head as well as the sides. I never had a headache that wasn't just a continuation of the day before that started before 11 AM - but these were like clockwork. Knock on wood, hard, I have not had a headache at all since about my 4th month of pregnancy. I do not look forward to my daily ones returning, and hope it's one of those things that will stay away.
I do get migraines, once in a blue moon. They give me auras and tend to hurt on one side of the face. Optic Neuritis headaches are the absolute worse, they hurt behind the eyes, typically on my right side, and not a fucking thing even touches it - not aspirin, not tylenol, not aleve or ibuprofen, the four pain killer groups. Just wait it out and pray you can see afterwards. This last bout of ON, left me with only partial vision in the right eye, 12 weeks and still no improvement, but it didn't hurt. I think I prefer the blindness to the pain, honestly.
Q9) If you could tell your friends/family one thing about MS and they would 100% believe that one thing. What would it be?
My MS is not my whole world. I talk about it because it makes me feel less alone. I wish you would ask me more questions so that it wasn't so much of a mystery, and you could understand my perspective a little better.
I'm not faking, and I don't want your pity, or even your attention. But acknowledgment that this is hard would be very validating.
Q10) Does anyone else feel out of place in a group setting trying to keep up with conversation and making sense when you reply?
I have not had this kind of immediate brain fog in a group, but I've had it when writing, and I have had to counsel patients with it. I tell them to say "Wait a minute, buffering," while they speak, so that they don't get the inevitable "What?" response. I had a patient who brought in her husband to have his hearing tested because she was certain he wasn't hearing her - he actually had perfect hearing, he said "what" all the time because her MS caused her to frequently not make sense, and he didn't know how else to tell her so.
Q11) Fill in the blank... I have MS, but MS will never stop me from __________!
Creating, in one medium or another!
Q12) What's that 1 medication/Vitamin that you believe helps you/your MS the best?
I loved my Gilenya. As far as I could tell, I had no side effects, and my MS was kept at bay, give or take a teeny bit of toe numbness on particularly stressful days. It did the trick for me, as long as I could keep my stress level low. I would like to go back on it after my baby is born, if my neurologist is willing to work with me.
Q13) Does anyone get that feel like you're walking on glass feeling? What helps it?
I only got this a few times with my previous numbness, and it was very disorienting. Like your foot "waking up," the worst part of it. But all the time. I really didn't focus on it because the most disconcerting part was when I walked a few yards, my legs from the knee down would go numb and I would get a spring-like feeling with every step. So glass-feet is a bit foreign to me, but I know it's real to a lot of MSers.
That's it for this week, folks!! Tune in next time!
Love, MSloan
Monday, October 26, 2015
ChatMS - 10/26/2015
Tonight's ChatMS was all about intimacy. I appreciate all of your support and participation, feel free to comment or copy/paste for your own blogs!
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Q1: On a scale of 1 to 5, how comfortable do you feel talking about Intimacy?
I'm married and generally very open. I rate at a 5!
Q2: Many people have different definitions of intimacy. What does it mean to you?
Intimacy to me means the ability to open up to a person in more than a casual or surface manner. It is not always sexual or romantic; I have few intimate relationships in my life, I am an open person but I am not easily trusting after one of my most precious relationships fell apart. It has new meaning to me now, especially in regards to MS, because it can and will impact every single relationship one has.
Q3: MS can have effects on Intimacy. Have you noticed changes since your diagnosis?
Yes - a few. I wrote a blog post about this earlier last week; it's difficult to feel welcomed to discuss my MS by people at work or church because they don't understand it. I had some more sexual dysfunctions as well, which I will address in later questions.
Q4: Have you and your partner discussed how MS can affect Intimacy?
Yes - we have had to have tough conversations about what this means for me, and how things might change in our relationship. We had to really buckle down and decide if we wanted to have children. It meant I had to breach the subject with a few friends - and I mean few. Many of the people I consider to be 'friends' still don't know I have MS - not that it matters, but I feel it's an important part of understanding why I make certain decisions.
Q5: MSers have more problems with ‘sex’ than a person who doesn’t have MS. Do you struggle with this?
Yes and no - I noticed a big drop in my libido shortly after being diagnosed, and when you are numb in areas from the waist down, it absolutely affects your ability to enjoy sex. I was depressed and very tired - it never felt like a good time, and this came right after a period where my libido was at an all-time high and our sex life was excellent; it was quite a setback.
Q6: ONLY if you are comfortable, what MS related symptoms have you noticed during times of physical intimacy?
The biggest one was an effect on my orgasms. For me, a climax affects my entire body - it isn't just localized in one 'place.' Instead, I can feel contraction and blood rushing all through my legs and torso, which enhances the experience. When I couldn't feel my leg or part of me pelvis, it really impacted my libido and my ability to enjoy sex when we had it. I was terrified that it would ruin our intimate time together forever. Thankfully, that ended. Now the only thing affecting our sex life is the weird experience of pregnancy.
I swear, I need to write a book - Pregnancy Sex: The Final Frontier.
Q7: How do you deal with the symptoms of MS and Intimacy? Have you talked to your neuro about it?
Just like anything in a relationship, communication is key. I have to be honest with my husband about do and do not feel ready for. I didn't discuss my sex drive with my neurologist then, but she was very perceptive and put me on anti-depressants. It was a lifesaver, though my Lexapro negatively impacted my climaxes as well for a while.
It's so refreshing to know that this is not an isolated problem, especially because it is likely addressed by some physicians as being a side effect of depression and nothing else. Don't let what your physician tells you be the only thing you learn - do research, ask others, be accountable for your healthcare!
Keep the conversation going! Participate weekly in #ChatMS on Twitter and FB!
MSloan
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Q1: On a scale of 1 to 5, how comfortable do you feel talking about Intimacy?
I'm married and generally very open. I rate at a 5!
Q2: Many people have different definitions of intimacy. What does it mean to you?
Intimacy to me means the ability to open up to a person in more than a casual or surface manner. It is not always sexual or romantic; I have few intimate relationships in my life, I am an open person but I am not easily trusting after one of my most precious relationships fell apart. It has new meaning to me now, especially in regards to MS, because it can and will impact every single relationship one has.
Q3: MS can have effects on Intimacy. Have you noticed changes since your diagnosis?
Yes - a few. I wrote a blog post about this earlier last week; it's difficult to feel welcomed to discuss my MS by people at work or church because they don't understand it. I had some more sexual dysfunctions as well, which I will address in later questions.
Q4: Have you and your partner discussed how MS can affect Intimacy?
Yes - we have had to have tough conversations about what this means for me, and how things might change in our relationship. We had to really buckle down and decide if we wanted to have children. It meant I had to breach the subject with a few friends - and I mean few. Many of the people I consider to be 'friends' still don't know I have MS - not that it matters, but I feel it's an important part of understanding why I make certain decisions.
Q5: MSers have more problems with ‘sex’ than a person who doesn’t have MS. Do you struggle with this?
Yes and no - I noticed a big drop in my libido shortly after being diagnosed, and when you are numb in areas from the waist down, it absolutely affects your ability to enjoy sex. I was depressed and very tired - it never felt like a good time, and this came right after a period where my libido was at an all-time high and our sex life was excellent; it was quite a setback.
Q6: ONLY if you are comfortable, what MS related symptoms have you noticed during times of physical intimacy?
The biggest one was an effect on my orgasms. For me, a climax affects my entire body - it isn't just localized in one 'place.' Instead, I can feel contraction and blood rushing all through my legs and torso, which enhances the experience. When I couldn't feel my leg or part of me pelvis, it really impacted my libido and my ability to enjoy sex when we had it. I was terrified that it would ruin our intimate time together forever. Thankfully, that ended. Now the only thing affecting our sex life is the weird experience of pregnancy.
I swear, I need to write a book - Pregnancy Sex: The Final Frontier.
Q7: How do you deal with the symptoms of MS and Intimacy? Have you talked to your neuro about it?
Just like anything in a relationship, communication is key. I have to be honest with my husband about do and do not feel ready for. I didn't discuss my sex drive with my neurologist then, but she was very perceptive and put me on anti-depressants. It was a lifesaver, though my Lexapro negatively impacted my climaxes as well for a while.
It's so refreshing to know that this is not an isolated problem, especially because it is likely addressed by some physicians as being a side effect of depression and nothing else. Don't let what your physician tells you be the only thing you learn - do research, ask others, be accountable for your healthcare!
Keep the conversation going! Participate weekly in #ChatMS on Twitter and FB!
MSloan
Thursday, October 22, 2015
MS, Real Life, Real Support, Real Fear
Did I say I was done for the night? I lied. I have another thing on my mind that is really grinding me.
Today I had lunch with my coworkers. We sat at a big table for one of my coworker's birthdays, shooting the shit about work, talking about all the things that drive us nuts about our boss and the general status of things. It isn't the best way to spend the middle of the day when you have to go back at 1 PM, but it is still frustrating nonetheless to be in a place that has so many flaws and pretend they don't exist.
I feel like that's how my illness is treated. It sucks, it really can affect me for the rest of my life, it's distracting while I'm dealing with it, and it will never go away. My illness doesn't have me, but I own it. I own it because it explains why, since 2010, I have had so many 'unexplained' issues that now finally have an answer. I am proud to be a relatively healthy voice for MS. I am not ashamed of it. But I feel like I really understand, especially today, why so many people never tell their coworkers, their friends, or make it known that they support the cause for fear of being associated with it. Because at the end of the day, no one wants to talk about it.
I talk about my MS at church a lot, because I feel like it's a safe place. I can't be denied a calling because of my MS. Most of the people at church don't know what it is and don't care; I look fine, so what's the problem?
In my job, however, that is not the case. We know full well what might happen to someone with MS. I am an "ADA Risk," and many people might consider me unemployable. So I feel like I have no choice but to be dishonest about my diagnosis if I need to get a job. I was denied a previously scheduled interview when I was honest with a potential employer about why I had to postpone my visit, because I was ordered not to fly by my doctor after my diagnosis. It is scary, unfair, and makes me worry for my future.
Today at lunch, I felt more lonely than I've felt in a long time. I'm pregnant without a mother. My sister is so freaked out at my MS that she never asks about it and the whole thing just makes her uncomfortable, so she never asks about it. My husband seems to have gotten tired of it all, and this latest flare up is just a presence in our apartment that he doesn't want to talk about. He can't say much about it anyway, so I guess it is almost preferable.
But at work, it's more of the same. More questions that make me feel like they think I'm faking a mythical issue from long ago. A quick inquiry here, another there, but silence the rest of the time. They ask me how I'm doing with my pregnancy, keep asking me when I'll finally 'pop out;' these are people that see me every day, who know I am sad I don't have a belly, stop asking me about that. When I told one of them two days ago about my recent flare, how I was scared and upset that my pregnancy didn't keep me in remission as I had assumed it would.
No questions. No real emotion. Just surface, because it makes everyone uncomfortable. I didn't tell anyone that I was dying, that I had cancer, that I was incurable. I told them I couldn't feel my feet and it had implications about my stress level. Hiding how I'm feeling only increases that. Makes me feel self-conscious. It's hard enough that I feel I have a big secret to keep from most people in my life, never mind the people I spend the most time with choosing to ignore it.
What I'm trying to say is, more concisely - this is a condition of loneliness. Outside of other people with MS, it's impossible to describe how you're feeling. Impossible to get other people to understand. I will never forget telling my mother a week after my Dx when I was going to get infusions that I couldn't feel my leg, to have her retort as she ran her fingers up her arm that, quote, "There are parts of my arm that I don't feel either," and I immediately knew she just didn't get it.
I know no one gets it. I just ... wish they would ask.
MSloan
Today I had lunch with my coworkers. We sat at a big table for one of my coworker's birthdays, shooting the shit about work, talking about all the things that drive us nuts about our boss and the general status of things. It isn't the best way to spend the middle of the day when you have to go back at 1 PM, but it is still frustrating nonetheless to be in a place that has so many flaws and pretend they don't exist.
I feel like that's how my illness is treated. It sucks, it really can affect me for the rest of my life, it's distracting while I'm dealing with it, and it will never go away. My illness doesn't have me, but I own it. I own it because it explains why, since 2010, I have had so many 'unexplained' issues that now finally have an answer. I am proud to be a relatively healthy voice for MS. I am not ashamed of it. But I feel like I really understand, especially today, why so many people never tell their coworkers, their friends, or make it known that they support the cause for fear of being associated with it. Because at the end of the day, no one wants to talk about it.
I talk about my MS at church a lot, because I feel like it's a safe place. I can't be denied a calling because of my MS. Most of the people at church don't know what it is and don't care; I look fine, so what's the problem?
In my job, however, that is not the case. We know full well what might happen to someone with MS. I am an "ADA Risk," and many people might consider me unemployable. So I feel like I have no choice but to be dishonest about my diagnosis if I need to get a job. I was denied a previously scheduled interview when I was honest with a potential employer about why I had to postpone my visit, because I was ordered not to fly by my doctor after my diagnosis. It is scary, unfair, and makes me worry for my future.
Today at lunch, I felt more lonely than I've felt in a long time. I'm pregnant without a mother. My sister is so freaked out at my MS that she never asks about it and the whole thing just makes her uncomfortable, so she never asks about it. My husband seems to have gotten tired of it all, and this latest flare up is just a presence in our apartment that he doesn't want to talk about. He can't say much about it anyway, so I guess it is almost preferable.
But at work, it's more of the same. More questions that make me feel like they think I'm faking a mythical issue from long ago. A quick inquiry here, another there, but silence the rest of the time. They ask me how I'm doing with my pregnancy, keep asking me when I'll finally 'pop out;' these are people that see me every day, who know I am sad I don't have a belly, stop asking me about that. When I told one of them two days ago about my recent flare, how I was scared and upset that my pregnancy didn't keep me in remission as I had assumed it would.
No questions. No real emotion. Just surface, because it makes everyone uncomfortable. I didn't tell anyone that I was dying, that I had cancer, that I was incurable. I told them I couldn't feel my feet and it had implications about my stress level. Hiding how I'm feeling only increases that. Makes me feel self-conscious. It's hard enough that I feel I have a big secret to keep from most people in my life, never mind the people I spend the most time with choosing to ignore it.
What I'm trying to say is, more concisely - this is a condition of loneliness. Outside of other people with MS, it's impossible to describe how you're feeling. Impossible to get other people to understand. I will never forget telling my mother a week after my Dx when I was going to get infusions that I couldn't feel my leg, to have her retort as she ran her fingers up her arm that, quote, "There are parts of my arm that I don't feel either," and I immediately knew she just didn't get it.
I know no one gets it. I just ... wish they would ask.
MSloan
Monday, October 12, 2015
#ChatMS
I just participated in my first Twitter #ChatMS - it was excellent! I feel so much more connected to the blogosphere/intersphere of people who have MS across the country and around the world. It's so great getting to know all of you as we share in this journey together.
I haven't had much reason to post lately because my MS is essentially on hiatus while I go through pregnancy - - SO why not post things about pregnancy? WHY NOT, I SAY!
So the next post will be the progress on Squishy thus far. Love to all! And thank you for participating, you make me brave!
Miss Sloan :)
twitter.com/revelwoman
I haven't had much reason to post lately because my MS is essentially on hiatus while I go through pregnancy - - SO why not post things about pregnancy? WHY NOT, I SAY!
So the next post will be the progress on Squishy thus far. Love to all! And thank you for participating, you make me brave!
Miss Sloan :)
twitter.com/revelwoman
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